Post # 1
This morning, seeing we needed milk and FI’s soda was running low, I asked if he would be able to pick some up after he got off work. He works in town and get’s off at 5 while I work a half-hour away and get off somewhere between 5:30 and 6. He said he wanted to come straight home and work on his homework. Okay, I would do it instead. I’m in line to check out when I get a text wondering when I was going to be home as he was getting hungry. I told him I would be home in about 10-15 minutes and would start supper soon after. Wasn’t bothered. If he’s working on homework, I have no problem taking care of supper. I get home and notice that while Fiance is in the office working on his homework, the light by his recliner is on and there’s a beer bottle on the table. Slightly annoyed, I ask him about it, hoping it was from yesterday and I had missed it. He said he had a beer and relaxed after work but it was only for a half-hour.
Now I’m annoyed and getting pissed. He didn’t have time to get some groceries after work or time to start on supper, but has time to relax and drink a beer. Meanwhile I, who works further from home and gets off later than he does, have to get his freakin’ soda and then get hints to hurry home and immediately start cooking supper for him. And to emphasize the hafl-hour like it wasn’t that long at all. If I had relaxed for a half-hour when I got home, I guarentee I would have gotten “I’m hungry. When’s supper, baby?” To me, it said that his time and need to relax was more important than mine. I told him this after he figured out that I wasn’t happy but his reaction was to tell me if I wasn’t hungry to not bother with supper and then avoid me. Grrrr…
Post # 3
Our way of handling these things–
“YOU get the milk!” “No, YOU get the milk!”
“Fine! We BOTH go get the milk!”
And we do. We literally walk to the store (or drive) together and suffer together.
Post # 4
Put your foot down girl! The last thing you want is for him to develop a habit and think that this behavior is ok. Worse, you may begin to resent him which will impact your relationsip negatively. Just have a talk with him.
Post # 5
@BothCoasts: THIS IS WHAT WE DO TOO!! I think the guy running our corner store must find us crazy.
Post # 6
We also jointly grocery shop. But we like going together. We work opposing schedules, so our time together is limited.
Post # 7
@StuporDuck: We normally do go grocery shopping together. We only recently got on similar schedules so doing it together meant we got time together. Today it was for two things and his homework is due tomorrow so one person gettting it after work made the most sense.
@BothCoasts: LOL! Nope, no arguements like that. Usually when one person asks the other to do something, it gets taken care of. Today on the otherhand…
Post # 8
I would not be okay with that behavior!
Fiance is the one who cooks for us, since I’m a horrible cook and he’s fantastic, but I NEVER nag him about dinner it is usually him asking me if I’m hungry yet! Most days I would just eat a sandwich if I was left to my own devices.
And we, too almost always go to the store together. OR, while he is cooking, I will go get whatever we are out of.
I wouldn’t throw a fit but just calmly point out how his behavior makes you feel if he does this again.
Than being said, my Fiance will sit and watch TV and/or play videogames while I work on homework for hours, instead of cleaning the house, and then on the weekend he complains that we have to clean because it’s gotten sooo messy. (He’s more of a neat freak than me, but neither one of us like cleaning alone).