Post # 1
Wondering which direction you bees are going in with your wedding? Are you going more with easy(whether it be close to where you live, inexpensive, etc) or grand, crazy, opulent, once-in-a-lifetime (expensive, destination, etc)?
Post # 3
I didn’t vote because I would say we are somewhere in the middle.. Ours is easier to plan because we both live in the same town as our wedding (as do both our families). We are budget conciscous but still splurging in areas that we want and our budget is not SUPER tight.. So its a once-in-a-lifetime day made easy 🙂
Post # 4
@Brooklyn55: I know what you mean but I don’t know what to do in my case! uGH! It seems like in my case it is straight up one or or the other and I don’t know what to do!
Post # 5
We went the once-in-a-lifetime route.
We (My DH, ILs, and parents) were basically like, ‘This is only happening ONCE. Ever. So we might as well throw one kick-ass party to celebrate.’
However, I was fortunate enough to have parents who were very generous with wedding expenses and who wanted us to have ‘our’ day- so they weren’t trying to force any stuff on us that we weren’t crazy about.
If we’d had to pay for everything ourselves, or if the money came attached with lots of strings, we’d probably have gone the easy route.
Post # 6
Us- Super Easy.
Yes, this is a once in a lifetime event, but then again, this is a ONCE in a LIFETIME event. For us, we decided to elope, and have a reception when we come back. We are seeing salads and MAYBE a pig on a spit, or cold roasts (being late sep-early oct in Australia, that is definately fine!)
I know my older sister, when she marries, wants a small but big do. Talking 30-40 guests, but no expense would be too high for their comforts (but she is in the incredibly lucky boat of her FSIL being a (actually brilliant) photographer who will do theirs for free…)
Post # 7
It was Easy for us.
Backyard wedding. Close and inexpensive. We are not one for opulance so a wedding of that caliber would be totally out of character for us.
Post # 8
Small. Intimate. Personal. Entirely un-blogworthy.
Elegant. Quality. Formal. Attention to detail. Treat guests like royality. To be remembered forever.
Post # 10
Hmm, kind of in the middle I guess though starting planning with an eye on extravagent and shifted more towards easy. I’m not really “skimping” on things but we always stop to ask ourselves if we really feel it’s worth it. It is a once in a lifetime event but there are a lot of little money pits (chair upgrades, unusual linens, etc) that we’ve decided to pass on since we don’t think they provide enough value. I’d love to go crazy on some of those things for my fantasy wedding but it real life I just can’t stomach the cost. I think the decorations we do plan on will make up for some of those other details and still give a stunning effect without sinking an extra $8/chair. My hope is that everything turns out beautiful and that it’s a fun and meaningful event.
Post # 11
Our’s is kind of in the middle, but I guess more once in a lifetime.
We’re having a DW at a castle in Scotland… sound big BUT its actually not that expensive. And our reception is going to be a small afternoon tea instead of a big deal. We’re not spending any more than we would here and our budget would still leave us in the “budget wedding” category.
Post # 12
@YogaFaerie: Do you mind me asking what kinda budget you have? This is something my FI and I have been considering.
Post # 13
@mcp3x: Sure! We’re aiming around $15,000 not including travel (and we’ll most likely be below that). Our budget was lower but my mom wants us to invite more people.
Just to give you an idea – our ceremony venue is $1500 to rent (a pretty standard fee if you book through the historic Scotland association) and then out reception space is free (as long as we have all of the rooms booked for our guests). Everything else depends on what kind of decorations, food, etc. you want. The costs for a DW in Europe is about the same (though some things are less, and other things are more depending on the different customs) as here. We are saving some money though because we aren’t having as many guests. There are also a lot of photographers looking to photograph weddings overseas and you might be able to get a good deal (pay for the photographer to travel – you don’t have to pay for anything else).
If you’re curious about more feel free to PM me. =) I’m really happy with our decision to go to Scotland!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
My wedding is a once in a lifetime affair… BUT it is easy too? It’s a 6-7k budget, in my hometown (which is 6 hours away from where I live), and it’s a lot of what I want and a lot of what I can afford.
Post # 15
I’d say in the middle. It will be big and have all the aspects of a typical dinner/dance wedding but we aren’t breaking the bank on it either.
Post # 16
@Brooklyn55: +1 to somewhere in the middle.