Post # 1
So I posted this in the dress section because I’m not sure where else to put it. I love this article. For a while I was worried about things looking dated – my dress, decor, hair, photography, etc. But you know what? I don’t care anymore! Of course my wedding will look dated and I kind of want it to! I don’t want to suppress my desire to wear a floral crown or braids (which I’ve worn forever!) or have quirky details like anime character references. My dress is pretty timeless but maybe not as much as I think. I realize it will be infinitely better to have a wedding that is “us” than to have a wedding with completely safe choices. It’s impossible to not make dated choices becuase you are having a wedding at a certain point in time anyway. Even Grace Kelly and Marilyn Monroe have “dated” styles because their fashion choices reflect the 50s. What do you guys think? What “dated” stuff are you having?
Post # 3
@secretbee33: I don’t think ours will be “dated” I like to think ours will be perfectly us at that exact moment in our lives. It’s a nicer way of looking at it.
Post # 4
There’s nothing that’s really ”timeless”, indeed. There are classical and traditional choices obviously, but even everything that’s vintage is trendy right now, and it can only mimick real vintage stuff ; they’re still modern in their interpretation and in 20 years when everybody will think puffy shoulder caps and princess gowns are the vintage look to go for, strapless will look dated, and so will fit and flare / mermaid silhouettes. That’s a huge majority of us who will look dated. But that’s not a big deal, I’d rather look at pictures of myself 30 years down the road and remember how gorgeous I felt on this day (and my beauty will have started to fade), I might laugh at a few choices of decor and accessories or haircut, but they will be happy laughters, no regrets.
I look at my grandmother’s and my mother’s pictures and while I wouldn’t wear exactly what they were wearing, I always think they looked gorgeous on their wedding day and I would never make fun of them or think they look dated. They were trendy back then.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’m pretty sure the feathers in my bouquet will look very “dated” in a few years, and I really could not care less. I still love them, and I am cool with that. 🙂
Post # 6
I’ve read that article before and I really love its message. I actually prefer it when things can be dated. When I look at photos from high school or college, I get tons of flashbacks to those times – the friends I had, the things I did, the things that were trendy. The same thing will happen with our wedding. I can already sense that my dress is a “trendy” style – lace with a keyhole back and illusion neckline. I don’t care because I love it, I feel great in it, and that feeling will be captured in our photos.
Besides, the only thing about the wedding that should stand the test of time is the marriage itself 😉
Post # 7
@alysee: true!I love looking at photos of my fiance and I from college and some of the hilarious things we wore. I still think he’s handsome anyway haha
@NauticalDisaster: yes – vintage is very popular now but in the 80s if you had a “vintage” wedding it would be so unfashionable! So I think just making the choices you like now instead of thinking about the future is the way to go
@lovekiss: haha definitely. I am going to do either paper flowers or dried for bouquets, and I’m sure it will be very old-fashioned looking to my grandchildren!
@bleusteel: yup :). The marriage is the important part anyway, the rest is just fun
Post # 8
My mother had THE MOST stereotypical 80’s dress EVER. huge shoulder pads. crazy beading, etc. I have teased her about it every once in a while over the years. then a few months after I was engaged, we broke out her wedding pictures just for fun, and I teased her again about the dress. she laughed- she knows how dated it looks now. But then, she got a really genuinely happy smile and just said “I loved that dress. I had never felt more beautiful, and I still have good memories of wearing it, so why should I regret it now? just because fashion has changed since the day I got married?”
it really put everything in perspective for me, and I no longer worried about having a “timeless” wedding, because I know I will still look back with good memories, no matter what.
Post # 9
I totally agree! I actually said that when I was dress shopping… I think I said “I don’t care about it being timeless. If in 20 years, I have children, and they make fun of my dress, I will be happy”. Seriously, I love looking at fashion through the ages. The fact that it changes is what makes it fun and artistic.
Post # 10
@delovely13: your mom’s reaction to looking at her wedding album is exactly how I want to feel when I look at mine in 20 years. Love this!
Post # 11
@secretbee33: The best way to avoid a “dated” wedding is with simplicity.
I often think tea-length, satin dresses (with or without) sleeves make it very difficult to look dated. Simple or no boquet. Simple white cake without flowers.
Styles of photography can heavily date a wedding.
Post # 12
Cheers! I totally agree! Being dated isn’t a bad thing! And it’s mostly inevitable. Who cares if your ring/dress/decor/photography is dated? It shows when you celebrated your wedding! I actually kind of like some things that are distinctly from a certain period. Gives them personality! My engagment ring is an heirloom and it’s definitely “dated” and I love that about it!
Post # 13
@FleeSircus: definitely – the only thing is though, none of those things are “me!” haha
Post # 14
Yeah, I don’t really think that whole “timeless” thing really exists. For the most part, if you see a wedding photo from the 80’s, you KNOW it was from the 80’s. Same with the 90’s, early 00’s and it will continue.
I just chose things I loved.. who cares if it’s timeless?
Post # 15
@jenilynevette: I just chose things I loved.. who cares if it’s timeless?
Exactly! I think timeless is soooo overused.
Post # 16
@delovely13: My mom had a crazy 80’s dress, too! Hers was this light pink color, with SUPER huge poofy shoulders, and the ENTIRE DRESS was beaded. It also had a 20 foot train.
She keeps saying how she wishes she saved it for me.. what?! I don’t want near that thing, lol.