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Gosh... come to think about it.. other than the pics (phone pics) posted by us or sneak pics that were posted by our photog we didn't have to worry about that. lol
idk what'd I do... probably untag myself. lol Or even ask them to take it down.. (we asked the photog to take one down... it was of the garter toss. I posted it here but we did feel comfortable with it on fb... idk just didn't lol
You could also set up a photosharing site & ask your guests to load them to there so that you and FH could see them and load them all in your album...
this has come up before. One of the bloggers didn't want pics posted on FB and she got SLAMMED about it. I personally feel like it's a private event for the people I invited. My preference would be that pics not be posted of me and definitely not of the important parts of the day. But I don't plan on saying anything to guests unless I am asked my preference. It's not because of looking bad or wanted to post all at the same time, it's just private, intimate and special event in our lives that I don't need people reporting the play by play of on FB to people that weren't invited and I don't know.
I feel the same way. I really don't want to see pictures of my wedding everywhere on Facebook for anyone's friends to see. I just don't know how to say it- do we annonce it? write it on the menu cards...? I know my FSIL (and BM!) will want to post every and any picture right away. She's the type of person who posts pictures of an event the day of or the morning right after... Hopefully she will understand...
@dancingsolo: Previous suggestions have been putting it on the website, on the programs, or using a photosharing site and printing out cards instructing guests where they can upload pics to share with you along with a message asking that they not post on FB.
You say this now, but honestly, once you have your wedding and are waiting for your pro pictures you will be so grateful that people are posting things for you to see! Just change your Facebook settings so it doesnt notify you every time someone posts something. I know I was SO happy to see photos the next day and the weeks after the wedding from friends. I guess your other option is to set up a flickr account and ask all your guests to post them there instead of facebook, but Im sure people will still post them on facebook. Or you can just make it so in your Facebook settings people are not able to tag you in photos.
No, I won't be telling our guests this. I'm fine with the pictures being uploaded. Sure I'd be worried about them catching me in a horrible angel, but oh well. 
@PitBulLover that is SO true! I was sooo glad to be able to see the pics my grandmother took.. of course they weren't digital so I didn't have to worry about them being posted for everyone to see... but in the waiting time it was VERY nice!
We live in a Facebook world. I don't really get the harm in it. You can try to control it - but you'll likely get resistance and people will probably do it anyway.
IMHO when people take pictures they are then considered their property and they can do as they please with them.
There was so much time between the wedding and getting pro pics I really enjoyed seeing everyones pics on facebook.
But I guess if it really bugs you it doesn't hurt to ask.
I unfortunately didn't tell people not to post pictures of me on facebook and before my wedding day had ended there were over 200 pictures of my wedding up! At first I was bothered by it......But, then i realized how happy I was to have had so many people there that were that excited about my day 
Turns out some of my guest too some pretty awesome pictures!
@PitBulLover: 100% agreed. Two days after the wedding I was home by myself with nothing. Finally the best man's wife posted some in the afternoon.
If you don't like the photo posted, then un-tag yourself or message the person and ask them to remove it.
It will be strange to see so many pictures of myself, as I'm not a fan of that... but I will tell you that generally, you'll be SO excited to see pictures!
For weddings I coordinate, I always have a little bag I carry around with me - before I send someone walking down the aisle, I usually end up with their cell phones, sunglasses (unless they've decided they wanted everyone to wear them) hotel room keys and cameras. For every wedding they've handed me a camera... I've taken pictures during the ceremony :)
It's a nice surprise for them and many of them comment the next morning about FB pictures they saw and how they can't wait for their pro pics, which can sometimes be quite a while.
If I was a guest at a wedding, I would be quite put off by a request to not share photos like that.
I'm hoping our guests do post during and immediately after the wedding so that our friends and family that couldn't make it can see them.
Good luck!!
I don't really think it's appropriate, unless you're doing it for privacy reasons. I fully expect people to share photos and I hope they do. There are a lot of friends and family who can't make it, or who I couldn't invite, and this is a way to show off all the hard work I put into it and for people to feel like they were there. I wouldn't want to hide it from them just because they aren't the "pro" pics. Those take weeks to get in!
If you don't like a particular angle, you can untag yourself, but I wouldn't go around making a big deal about it. People will think it's rude and that you're more concerned about how you look than their ability to show off what a good time they had.
I don't understand this really. For birthday parties, an event for which there is a center of attention and for which you are invited to a private event, people post pictures immediately. A wedding is the same!
Think about this: People don't really post pictures of events they didn't like or aren't excited about. They want to share your event with everyone! In the end I think you'll like that you can see pictures so immediately.
If you try and forbid people from doing it they'll just get their back up about it and post awful photos out of spite.
When my closest friend got married, I sent her a link to my photos of flickr within an hour of getting home. It was up to her to post her favs on Facebook. I did the same with a colleague at work.
I wish people werent as tied to Facebook for picture sharing (because they potentially mine everything for info they can use for marketing), but that's the way it is these days.
There were pics going up on fb during our ceremony. Friends were putting them up all over the place. Even if you say something, I'm sorry, but it will happen.
I would never post/tag unflattering pictures of someone from their wedding. Who would do that? DON'T INVITE SHITTY PEOPLE TO YOUR WEDDING. BOOM. I just solved 48% of all problems on Weddingbee.
Your most recent drunken escapades, however, are completely fair game as far as I'm concerned. I'm a facebook tagging terrorist, pretty much.
i will probably feel happy people post pictures of me! although sometimes i feel like i come out ugly in some of them 
@mwitter80: Agreed... and I did try.
@Ugoob: I have TWO bad angle shots. It is what it is and everyone who knows me has already seen that angle anyways. But it did upset me at first (in complete honesty)
lol, I won't have to tell anyone, 'cause we don't care. plus, there are a few certain people who aren't invited that we know will see 'em and HATE us for the awesome party/wedding we're gonna have.
as for the whole "posting during wedding/ceremony".... yeah, that's an issue that was solved for us. Reason being: no cell/internet reception AT THE VENUE! GOTTA love them mountains! LOL!
Sooooo, everyone will have to wait until they're back home to post the photos. Plus, we plan on "stealing" our friends' photos and we know they won't care (duh, their our friends!) and it'll hopefully be something they want to talk about later. :)
eta: of course, we ARE hoping to snag the only cabin that has the internet for our "suite" so we can post whatever we want on FB that night/next day! (and why CAN'T the bride and groom be the first ones to post it on FB for those who couldn't make it???)
Everyone that took pics at our wedding posted them all on FB. Video too. There WERE a few really bad ones that made me cring but whatever. In the end, our photographer had THREE rolls of film end up blank, and so I was super thankful for all the pics taken by guests!
That same blogger who didn't want them ended up changing her mind in the end while waiting for pro pictures. She said she appreciated so much that her guests uploaded photos because she was happy to relive the day. I don't see anything wrong with it. No one ever gets tired of seeing wedding photos.
I'm cool with people posting pics of the wedding on FB, but I also love to be the center of attention
What I am not cool with, and this happened to a friend of mine, is having people post pics of the ceremony while it is going on. I'm trying to decide whether to put something in the programs like "Please turn off your cell phones during the ceremony."
@nqz100: If you dont mind them being on FB, why does it bother you if they post during the ceremony? Just wondering :)
I agree with the above. Technically a picture someone takes is their own property. You can explicetly tell guests not to take pictures at your wedding but I think you'll regret it later in not having the fun candid shots. I posted a TON of pictures from my brothers wedding and he and his wife were so happy I did.
We have absolutely no issues with people taking and posting pictures. They can tweet my whole ceremony if they want (as long as it isn't one of the attendants!). It is a very intimate day, but certainly not one we're trying to hide from anyone. I'm glad our friends and family who are unable to attend, will get to see pictures within a day or two. If I found a terrible picture, I supposed I'd untag myself, but I highly doubt one or two bad angles in the mix of hundreds of other amazing photos will make you look poorly in any way.
unfortunately i think it's a risk you take as a member of facebook. anyone can tag you in any photo at any time, not just your wedding photos, and there isn't much you can do besides "untag" yourself. i don't think there is a polite way to request that people not post photos without sounding vain (worried about wrong angle). i would just try to monitor it closely and don't let it bother you.
@Beluga: lol, we don't even need half the boards now thanks to your solution!!
All kidding aside though, the problem is, people never think a photo of me is unflattering when it OBVIOUSLY is horrid. I mean, huge double chin, ridiculous "D'oh!" look on my face, whatever, someone always says "Oh you look beautiful" and they are clearly lying or blind. Those were the kind oftags I removed after the wedding. ;)
@mzlouis2b: I'm cool with pictures of the ceremony being posted, just not while the ceremony is going on. When my friend got married, her ceremony started at 1 and the first pic went up at 1:02, while the ceremony was still in progress. I just kind of find it rude. My ceremony is going to take 7 minutes out of the day, and I don't think you should be on FB posting pics and checking status updates while it is going on.
I personally am one of those really private people who wouldn't want my pictures all over facebook, but I have my reasons. I understand that people are those types of people who will want to post right away for their own reasons. Whether or not our situations will or will not mix right at my wedding, I'm not sure and haven't quite thought it out.
But, I agree with the PP. I find it a little bit disrespectful to not give your full attention during the ceremony.
I guess I am from the opposite camp. I want those pictures! I want to see the pictures everybody took and I look at it as just another way to show off the fact that I got married even sooner! I mean, those pro pics are going to be a lot better than something a cousin took on their phone. And this way I don't have to wait MONTHS to see pictures!
I didn't have a problem with my friends posting pics of our wedding on FB before our pro pics came in. Were there some pictures of myself I didn't really care for? Sure, but my friends aren't pro photographers, and everyone's their own worst critic. I untagged myself and got over it.
It didn't diminish the impact of when we finally got our pro pics and put them on FB. I honestly was not expecting so many people to look completely through the album I uploaded, but they did, and regardless of what my friends posted before, the pro photos are the ones that everyone is still talking about.
I think you either ban photography altogether, or you accept the fact that people have the right to put their photographs on the internet as part of their own celebration and appreciation of your event.
I think this is a tough issue. Part of me would feel bad that people were posting pictures to Facebook because I feel like it is a slap in the face to those who weren't invited. It's almost like saying, "Hey! Look at this really cool party that you DIDN'T get invited to!" Sort of awkward and potentially hurtful...
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I was lucky enough to have a small intimate Wedding with family, so I was very blunt in saying I do not want any pics of me on Facebook before I post any. I told them they can post pics of themselves, but to please hold off on posting anything till I get the professional shots in.
My reason behind this is I didnt want CONSTANT updates of my Wedding photos.
Here are the cell pics, now the camera pics, now my moms pics, now my cousins camera, now the Photographers camera etc... I wanted to post them once I get them ALL in.
Anywho, has any or does any Bride plan on saying anything like this to your guests?
OMG can you imagine if they tag you at a bad angle? lol