Post # 1
After 26 plus years of marriage I would like to say that I think that the wedding ring is much more important than the engagement ring – emotionally, symbolically and spiritually. If I was to give advice I would say to everyone to choose a wedding ring that you love and then choose an engagement ring to go with it. Not the other way round. And choose a wedding ring that you can wear as much as possible, either with or without your engagement ring.
The jewellery industry will hate me for saying this, of course, as it would reduce their profits and force them to think again but I suspect we would all end up with prettier and more meaningful rings.
Post # 3
@Supersleuth: I feel that way about my wedding band. Once I start wearing it my e-ring will be optional, but my wedding band will always be on my finger.
Post # 4
@Supersleuth: I agree!
And yes, the jewellery industry will hate you for this PSA. When I was shopping, I insisted to try on a wedding band with every engagement ring setting, and at every jeweller, they tried to keep me focused on the e-ring. It was annoying that salespeople would so reluctantly let me try on wedding bands.
I had to explain to them in plain language that I would not buy an engagement ring without a suitable band in mind.
Post # 5
@Supersleuth: I was very picky with my engagement ring and I’m being equally, if not more, picky with my wedding band. I want something that I love on its own as well as with my ering. I would prefer to not have to take it off.
Post # 6
I completey argee! I didn’t have any choice in my promise ring. He just picked it out for me. For my engagement ring I gave him some pointers; basically that it had to be a lower set solitare between a 1/5 and 1/2 carat set in white gold. For my wedding band–well I get to pick that out myself. FI just wants to be there and help.
Post # 7
@Supersleuth: I agree too! My FI picked out my e-ring and I love it but I wanted us to pick out our own wedding rings. They mean so much. I never understood why erings sometimes, if not usually, cost more than the wedding band.
Post # 8
my e-ring and wedding bands collectively have become my wedding band. they have been soldered together, so there will never be one without the others. in this instance, i feel like the e-ring is the statement piece of the set, and the bands compliment it as well as having their own significance. i dont feel that the wedding bands r more important than the e-ring. they r equally important to me.
Post # 9
@Supersleuth: This is a good point!! I also think the act of buying your bands together is particularly special too
Post # 10
@Supersleuth: agreed. One of the reasons I picked my 3 stone engagement ring over a solitaire was because I preferred the way it looked with a band. I actually liked the solitaire better when each ring was alone, but I knew I’d only be wearing it alone for a short space of time!
I still think my FI would be heartbroken if I didn’t wear my e-ring all the time though.
ETA: this is also why I chose a band without diamonds. I never want to have to take it off!
Post # 11
Honestly I am glad we put more thought into my engagement ring. Both are important to me, and my wedding band looks good with the e-ring and on its own, but sorry, the diamond is most important. If I told my husband that the band was more important, I think he’d want my head examined 😛
I don’t consider the wedding band to be hugely important or sybolic like some do, I guess. I see it as a piece of jewelry that shows I am married. I wear it on the outside to protect my engagement ring. Now, my engagement ring had a lot of thought and money put into it.. it is hugely important to me.
Post # 12
I plan on having a few wedding bands (one blingy, one plain, and a wrap band, and probably a lot more) to switch out depending on my mood, where I’m going, etc. I think what is important is actually being married and wearing what you love, they’re just rings and as long as you’re wearing one (for those that like to wear them at all) the symbolism is there :-).
Post # 13
@BeeG35: + 1
@Supersleuth: I have a wrap as my wedding band, so it cannot really be worn alone without looking ridiculous. My e-ring slides into place between the two bands and it becomes one ring. I actually don’t even really like the look of my e-ring alone now that we have had the bands made. Cannot wait to finally get to wear it together, every day.
Post # 14
The wedding set is what is important. I would never pick a band, then an engagement ring to go with it. BOTH will be on my hand forever- I want the set to look perfect, as the promise he first made to me (ering) and the follow through (wedding band) are equally important.
Post # 15
Hm. Well, I only have one ring. When I was engaged I called it my engagement ring and when I got married I called it my wedding ring. It is a 5 stone diamond ring in an ornate gold setting, so most people would say it looks like an engagement ring. I wear it all the time and have had no problems. The center stone is from my greatgrandmother’s engagment ring and the setting is from my husband’s grandmother’s engagement ring. I don’t think it gets much more sybolic than that. Joining of the two families and all. For me, the symbolism of the ring is a physical reminder to me and advertisment to the world that I am taken. That was true when I was engaged and now that I’m married. I guess there is some added “spiritually” now that it’s a wedding ring because we did a ring warming ceremony. But I think both rings can be important. It’s likely going to differ from couple to couple. I know some people that are married that don’t wear any ring at all. And that’s okay too! I think it is definitely important to think about what’s really important. But that is going to be different for every couple.
Post # 16
@canarydiamond: haha <3 your honesty.
For me, and maybe I feel this way because my wedding band is so plain but neither piece of jewelry is more important than the other. They’re both rings to show my relationship status and I don’t really need either of them but I really like my ering, I chose it myself and it’s beautiful. I’ll like my wedding band just fine too, it goes with my ering.