Post # 1
If you are engaged would you expect that your fiancee’s future sister in law chooses you as her bridesmaid?
She would ask your fiancee’s other sister in law as her bridesmaid (who she has good relationship with), but she would not choose you as her bridesmaid (as you are a grilfriend and also you both do not share a close relationship)
Post # 3
@inspiration86: is it obvious to everyone that you are personal friends with the other SIL? If yes, then your choice of bridesmaids will be based on friendship and not necessarily familial obligation. Buuuut…if you just randomly pick one Future Sister-In-Law and exclude the other, I can see how there is the possibility for hurt feelings.
Post # 4
“(as you are a grilfriend and also you both do not share a close relationship)”…
OP what ar eyou trying to get re-affirmed here? That someone should pick you top be a Bridesmaid or Best Man bc you are in a relationship with her BIL? I don’t think that there’s and obligation at all for a bride to pick anyone bc of their relationship ties. The bride picks who she wants, and that may not be based on who the Fiance is at all.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
No. She should only pick the people she’s closest to, not feel like she has to pick someone just because she happens to be getting married to her sibling in the future.
Post # 7
Nope, only close friends to be BM’s. If she wants to yes by all means include but not required to have siblings/gf/bf/so in the bridal party
Post # 8
My answer is the same as before. I would never expect to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. And I wouldn’t pick someone as an obligation either.
Post # 9
@lina010: I am the one who chooses. My Future Mother-In-Law is pushing me to choose the other girl, but I am not comfortable with that!!!! Eeek Future Mother-In-Law likes other girl more than me, it is disappointing.
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Post # 12
@MrsBeck: Sorry, I just asked again if there is a chance they got engaged :/
It’smy horrific Future Mother-In-Law who likes that other girl so much (more than me) that she expects me to choose her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 13
Yes. She is going to be your fam. You’re gonna have to deal with her for the rest of your life. Suck it up and have her as your Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 14
@inspiration86: no, unless i was very good friends with her personally, i would not expect to be asked.
Post # 15
@Atalanta: Even of she will not ask me to be her BM??!!
Post # 16
Etiquette Snob here… lol
There can be no “assumed obligations” etc when it comes to a Bride picking her Bridal Party
Some Brides go with strictly family members (very traditional)… while others with their closest of Friends
BUT there is no right and wrong… the Bride gets to choose WHOMEVER she wants… IF ANYONE… as a Bridal Party is not a necessity to getting married (and in recent years, some Brides even pick their guy-friends to stand up with them)
Too many people IMO get their panties in a knot too many Bridal Party issues… if more people “read up” on how things work, and why, or where the concepts originated fom (including the “Traditional Etiquette” ones… there would be a lot less drama on the Brides & Maids front IMO)
Hope this helps,