Post # 1
If you are a grlfirend would you expect that your boyfriend’s future sister in law chooses you as her bridesmaid?
She would ask your boyfriend’s other sister in law as her bridesmaid (who she has good relationship with), but she would not choose you as her bridesmaid (as you are a grilfriend and also you both do not share a close relationship)
Post # 5
Nope. I definitely would not expect to be asked. Even as a SIL I wouldn’t expect to be asked if we didn’t have a close elationship.
Post # 6
I never expect to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 7
I was the girlfriend in this situation last year and didn’t even expect to be invited! Granted, it was a very small wedding.
Post # 8
Nope. Not unless we were super close.
Post # 9
@inspiration86: I would never expect this, though whether a bride would decide to have her brother’s girlfriend as a bridesmaid really depends on the relationship between the bride and the girlfriend.
I’m having my brother’s girlfriend, but not because it’s “expected” in any way. They are quite serious, live together, and I fully anticipate that one day she will be my sister in law–but more importantly, I love her and we have a very good friendship. I’d want her as a BM whether she was my brother’s girlfriend or if we knew one another some other way.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t expect to be a bridesmaid in anyone’s wedding, so no.
Post # 11
@inky_ +1 Seriously.
I wouldn’t expect to be a bridesmaid until I was asked.
Post # 12
The only weddings I’d ever expect to be a bridesmaid in would be my sister’s and my BFF’s.
The key to this post is not whether or not another sister-in-law was asked, but rather, it’s the fact that the girlfriend and future SIL do not share a close relationship. Why would you ask someone to be a BM with whom you don’t have a close relationship? Doesn’t make sense to me.
Post # 13
Nope. I answered your other post a few days ago 😉
Don’t sweat it if you don’t want her in your wedding party. Your BMs are YOUR choice!
Also, if you don’t feel close enough to ask her, she may not feel comfortable being asked, either.
Post # 14
@AnonymousCupcake: Ohh I know, I’m sorry, but this time I want to see from other persepctive. I worry about FMIL reaction (FMIL likes that girl very much, I suspect that much more than me even) because first time we talked about it, FMIL was very strongly opinionated that I “have to have her as a BM because it is appropriae”
I have to be strong and tell FMIL “I have chosen my BM as my friends, I consulted a lot of people on what is appropriate” and hopefully she gets off my back. I am too nice of a person to be firm with what I am comfortable with. I can do it, I can do it (mantra) lol
Post # 15
@inspiration86: No way. I wouldn’t even expect to be a bridesmaid if I was married to the brother, even though I did this for my DH’s sister and sister in law.
Post # 16
Your FMIL is wrong because it isn’t “appropriate”. I don’t know why people have to have their say in someone else’s wedding!
I just think that, if your relationship isn’t very strong to begin with, she might not feel comfortable being asked to be in it anyway. For example, I’m not close to my SIL (I like her but we are not close and never really each other, except for holidays), and if she asked me to be in her wedding, I would probably say yes, BUT I would feel awkward/not really know what to do. Plus, being a BM may involve a lot of parties, etc, involving the bride and her friends… If she isn’t close with you and isn’t close with any friends, it might be awkward. Not saying it WILL be awkward for her, but committing to someone you don’t know very well could be pretty uncomfortable.