Post # 1
FH and I both pretty bummed that we aren’t going to be able to have our honeymoon because of finances. We were planning something simple anyway, but our financial situation has changed drastically since we started planning. FH had to buy a new truck and I’ve been unemployed for a while. We’re ok with it and we know we can go somewhere nicer, later. Like Ireland. That would be awesome.
So, we’re planning on getting a suite at a hotel in our city for a night or two. I’m not one for discussing my wedding plans with anyone, but I did share with my mom and a few friends. They all say that it’s not going to be special enough because we aren’t doing anything. I think it’s going to be special enough because we’ll be married and it’ll be out first night as a married couple. FH and I are homebodies anyway, so going out and doing something super exciting wasn’t exactly in the cards for our original honeymoon plans. But, my mom went to Cancun on her honeymoon, one of my friends went to Italy and the other went on a cruise.
I guess I just don’t understand the obsession with the fact that you HAVE to go somewhere exotic in order to have a nice honeymoon.
I just want someone else to back me up on my belief that our mini moon will be just as awesome as anyone else’s because we’ll be married and it’s still our honeymoon, even if we are going to be hanging out at the hotel 5 minutes away from our own house.
Post # 3
@SouthernGirl: People never used to go far away and certainly not anywhere exotic. The point is that you two get to be alone and celebrate being married togther. That is all that really matters.
FI and I always dreamed of going away to a particular place, but reccently I found out I had celiacs and can not eat gluten. It pretty much changed our entire honeymoon plans.
Things happen. Its life. Gotta roll with the punches. Dont let anyone get you down. Appreciate and enjoy it! As long as you two are together and happy, that is all that matters.
Post # 4
@SparkleBee11: That’s how I feel. But getting married and having a baby means everything is everyone else’s business. I think our mini moon will be awesome.
Post # 5
@SouthernGirl: FI and I are doing the exact same thing, we got a suite for the wedding weekend at a nice hotel, that’s actually only about 1 mile from our house.
But just to be somewhere, anywhere but home, will be special. Lay in bed, order room service, relax, just love each other. Enjoy the bliss of being newly married. That’s what the honeymoon should be about. Its not about the destination, its about being together.
Post # 6
@SouthernGirl: The only way it wouldn’t be special is if YOU two felt like it wouldn’t be! If you’re both comfortable with the idea, then it will be perfect! I don’t see a thing wrong with it, you guys will have a great time.
Post # 7
Do whatever makes you happy! People just use the term “honeymoon” as an excuse to spend more money than they normally would on a vacation.
Part of me feels like, “This is the last time before we have kids that we can take this type of a vacation and it’s our first time vacationing as a married couple, we should DO.IT.UP!”
And the other part of me feels like, “Let’s be real here – this isn’t my first or my last vacation with FI. As long as we have a good time and get to be alone together and enjoy our marriedness, that’s all that matters.”
I think they’re both valid feelings to have and no one should make you feel like it’s not!
Post # 8
We had a mini moon at home and it was awesome. Don’t listen to anyone else. It’s about celebrating your union and how you both choose to do that best is only you two.
Post # 9
@SouthernGirl: We had an awesome, simple, cheap honeymoon a few hours from our house. All that matters is you get some time alone relaxing!
If friends are making you feel bad about your choice, ask them to contribute to your honeymoon fund! 😛
Post # 10
@SouthernGirl: We’re in a similar situation. Finances won’t allow us to have an extravagant honeymoon, so we’re going to go on a minimoon around our homestate, Michigan.
We recently moved out of state and miss Michigan terribly. Both of our families have cabins “up north”, so we plan on staying at both of them and also seeing the things we haven’t been able to see yet (there’s lots to see in Michigan!).
We haven’t told anyone yet, but our family would probably react like yours.
Honestly, I know we’re going to love it. And we’re planning on taking a big trip out west for our first anniversary.
Post # 11
I think the modern two week mega-moon is a new thing.
I don’t know ANYONE who had a massive 2 week exotic honeymoon who got married before the 90s!
Everyone I asked had a “mini moon” (by today’s standards).
So I’m sure yours will be PLENTY special!
Post # 12
@SouthernGirl: its your honeymoon. you can do whatever you want/can afford. dont let other people who arent giving you a dime make you question your choice (not sayin you are) their opinion, is just that – theirs. do what you are comfortable with.
i personally think a mini moon or weekend trip is a great alternative to spending thousands on a honeymoon when finances/other obligations dont allow you to have the honeymoon of your dreams right away& besides it gives you an excuse to go on a trip later if you want !
Post # 13
@tksjewelry: we did too! We stayed at home and went kayaking at the lake down the road. There are so many things here that we havent done before…
Post # 14
My husband and I went on a mini moon to the Catskills. It was just what we needed after the wedding. A few days away from all of our family and friends, decompressing, relaxing and having fun. A year later we went on our honeymoon to Morocco and Paris. Waiting allowed us to save up money and vacation time for a really fantastic fantastic trip. I think I would have been way too stressed to pack for an international trip right after our destination wedding in New Orleans and we would have had less time available, because of vacation days.
It’s okay to do it when you’re ready and financially able to have the trip you want.
Post # 15
Personally, I think its beautiful that you and FI are making the most of your present circumstances and still planning something special that reflects yall’s personalities as a couple. Everyone is different and every couple is different. Plus, itll be nice to just have a few calm nights with your new husband, maybe a nice dinner and just some bonding time between you guys. I think its a great idea!
Post # 16
Chile, please?! Ignore everyone else… I am mad I can only afford a week long honeymoon, haha! My dream second honeymoon will have to wait until my money is right. Anything that you do will be special because it will be celebrating being married! Nothing is wrong with a mini-moon. Everyone cannot afford a month long party, that is just how it is. Enjoy yourself. A staycation is great because you don’t HAVE to do anything!