Post # 1
I knew the day would come when I would hear those 5 little words that would crack my heart a tiny bit. You’re not my friend anymore!! My four year old son just stomped off to his room, shut the door and told me that! Over what?? I took away his Nerf gun, which I don’t like in the first place and was a gift from a not-so-smart childless friend of mine. I told him he was allowed to shoot the walls but not his one year old sister or myself. So he threw the gun in anger and I took it away. Sigh…. he’s home sick from school today, I have a feeling it’s going to be a longgggg dayyyyy
Post # 3
Awwww. It is ok, he really doesn’t mean it. Little boys and their toy guns…it is a complicated relationship. You just got in between it. hahah.
Post # 4
AWWW it will happen many more times. I hate when my son says I am the worst mom every
Post # 5
The first time one of my friends heard this she told her son “I’m not your friend, I’m your Mom.” I love that answer.
Post # 6
@TheFutureMcBride: Thats the best!!! Thank you!!
Post # 7
That’s tough. 🙁 I’m dreading the day this happens. Hang in there, momma! He doesn’t mean what he said.
Post # 8
@Bostonsmom: No problem. I’m keeping it in my back pocket when the time comes.
Post # 9
He’ll get over it. I’ve heard the “I don’t like you” and “I don’t love you” and “You don’t love me” phrases lots of times from my hard-headed, stubborn, obstinate 8 year old son. And it’s ALWAYS after I’ve grounded him and chewed him out over something he KNOWS he’s not supposed to do! My daughter hasn’t YET gotten to that point yet, but I figure it’s only a matter of time.
It’s, unfortunately, a part of being a parent and I think us moms are just softies, cause I HATED it when he does that. Feel like crawling under the bed and crying (and I’m pretty thick-skinned, too!). My FI (my daughter’s father) gets upset by it, too, but he’s better at hiding it than me.
I think it’s a natural reaction from a kid, cause I remember thinking it (but NEVER saying it) about my parents.
Post # 10
awww this would have hurt my heart a little too lol
Apparently when I was three I told my mom I hated her … i beleive it was over not being allowed to eat something lol…
Post # 11
oh man i remember saying stuff like that a lot to my parents…i don’t even have kids yet and i’m already dreading the day this will happen to me!
Post # 12
A friend of mine had her 5 year old son tell her “I like Daddy more than you.” I (jokingly!) told her she should have said “Well, right now I like Daddy more than you too.”
Post # 13
I’m not a mom yet, but I do have a preschool class full of 3 year olds. Yesterday, one of my little girls got mad when I told her to go to time-out and she said “YOU ARE NOT MY BEST FRIEND ANYMORE!” to which I replied, “That’s okay because I’m still your teacher :)” I’m sure that stings a little coming from your own child 🙁
Post # 14
As a kindergarten teacher, you are fine. I remember te first time I made a kid cry. I felt awful, but then after a while you get used to it. Kids this young are still learning how to express their emotions.They test boundaries.
I’ve actually banned the phrase “you’re not my friend” from my classroom because it drives me bonkers. They don’t really use it with me as much as each other so I guess that’s kind of different.
Regardless, please don’t give into the anger. He needs to understand what the rules are and that his actions have consequences. He will be a better kid for it.
Post # 15
@Bostonsmom: I remember my SIL had that conversation with my mother about her daughter telling her that (I think it was “I hate you” or “You’re a bad mommy!” or something). My mother just kind of shrugged and said, “They’re SUPPOSED to do that.”
You ever read “The Runaway Bunny”? That’s the way it works: the kid says, “I hate you and I’m running away” and it’s your job to say, “Fine, but I’ll always find you because I’ll always love you.” Over and over until they grow up 🙂