"You're obsessed"

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

There are different styles of relationships.  Some people prefer (and can handle) talking on the phone every day.  Some people like to be alone more often.  Your roommate is probably one of those people who prefer to be alone more often.  I am like that.  I absolutely do not understand my one friend’s need to be with her husband at every point.  It’s absurd to me.  But to her, it’s not absurd — it’s her life.


So I’m sure it’s fine!  Your relationship is your own.


I also think you should move into your own place lol.  

Post # 5
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

My FI and I have not spent a single day without speaking since we met.

We’re not obsessed we’re in love.

Sometimes you just have to laugh and shrug off what other people say, they’re not in your relationship so it’s really none of their business.


Post # 6
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve been with my guy for more than seven years and have not gone a day without talking. I guess we’re pretty obsessed lol. 

Post # 7
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 a couple friends and i went to disney world in 2010. my husband (who was my fiance at the time) was at home. there were a few times i even skipped rides so i could sit and text or talk to him on the phone. it was that trip that decided for us that we were never going to be apart again because it sucked.

some couples are more clingy than others. but as long as you are clingy together, then it’s fine. everyone is different.

Post # 8
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would never go a day without speaking to my FI. We live together but if I am away for work for the week then he generally calls me in the morning and in the evening each day. (Tbh I could stick to just once a day unless  there was something up but he seemed to like to call more than that and if he’s bored at home with no one else to talk to then I’m happy to give him some conversation).

Post # 9
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That’s not very nice. Are you guys long distance?

Anyway, if you want to talk to him and he wants to talk to you, what’s wrong with that? Don’t doubt your relationship. Good for you.

My husband and I don’t really talk on the phone a lot, but we did when we first got together/ before we moved in together. I prefer not to go any day without speaking to him at least once, but when he’s on a fishing trip in the ocean, I don’t get phone calls. That’s ok. But that’s because he has a valid excuse. 🙂

Post # 10
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ha. Just let it roll off your back… Remember you’re the one with the awesome guy to talk to all the time! 🙂

Post # 11
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@LadyBlackheart:  That’s hilarious. What if you got married and actually LIVED together every day?! Now THAT would be nuts. lol

Post # 12
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell that girl to mind her own business. My SO and I have been together for five years and we went one single day without talking (and I think we still instant messaged- back when that was still a thing).  If it works for you guys, then don’t doubt it. 

Post # 13
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Obsessed huh? I talk to FI every day. Granted it is easier now that we have an apartment together but even before that we talked almost everyday (There was one summer that he lived with his brother in the middle of nowhere with no cell reception. We would have to redial on average 5 times to have a 30 min conversation. So we only talked every other to every third day.). I think comfortable is a better descriptor. I basically lived with FI for 4 months before I figured out we were dating. It wasn’t that I felt compelled to spend time with him just that I enjoyed it. We were both living under our textbooks anyhow. Might as well have good company.

Post # 14
163 posts
Blushing bee

@LadyBlackheart:  I think it’s really rude of her to be that judgmental. Different strokes for different folks.

FWIW, I don’t think you’re “obsessed” by any means.

Post # 15
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@LadyBlackheart:  Yeah, if she’s never been in a relationship she just doesn’t understand the dynamic. Try to be calm and understanding with her- she might feel like she’s sort of losing your attention (even though you are clearly giving it to her!). 

Post # 16
62 posts
Worker bee

That sounds exactly like the things I used to say to my siblings when I would tease them.  I’m sure it wasn’t out of malice, but unfortunately these things can be taken the wrong way.  As the others have said, every one’s relationship is different and what works for some doesn’t work for others.  If chatting every day is working for you and your SO, then there’s nothing to question!  🙂  

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