Post # 1
My roommate said this to me earlier tonight. I had been talking to my BF on the phone when she came home from work. I hung up with BF so I could talk to the roomie for a little while.
About 20 to 30 minutes later, I said I was gonna go to my bedroom to call BF back before he fell asleep. That’s when my roommate told me I was obsessed with him.
I was taken aback by this. I mean, yes I talk to BF every night but so what? It’s my understanding that plenty of couples do this. It’s normal.
My roommate then said, “Can y’all even go a day without talking?” in an exasperated tone of voice.
I got a litte defensive at this and indignantly said, “Of course we can. But we don’t want to.”
i don’t think that wanting to talk to my BF every night means that I’m obsessed with him. But I will admit that my roommate planted a little seed of doubt as to whether I spend too much time with BF or talk to him too often. I wonder, does she see something that I’m not seeing?
Oh well. 98% of me is just chalking this up to the fact that she is single and has never had a serious relationship. But still…damn that little 2% of me that is making me worry.
Post # 3
There are different styles of relationships. Some people prefer (and can handle) talking on the phone every day. Some people like to be alone more often. Your roommate is probably one of those people who prefer to be alone more often. I am like that. I absolutely do not understand my one friend’s need to be with her husband at every point. It’s absurd to me. But to her, it’s not absurd — it’s her life.
So I’m sure it’s fine! Your relationship is your own.
I also think you should move into your own place lol.
Post # 4
@peachacid: Lol, oh I am! In January. My lease expires then and it’s not really a good option to break it early. I’ll be saving more money for BF and mine’s apartment if I stay until my lease ends.
I honestly cannot wait. January is taking forever to get here lol.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
My FI and I have not spent a single day without speaking since we met.
We’re not obsessed we’re in love.
Sometimes you just have to laugh and shrug off what other people say, they’re not in your relationship so it’s really none of their business.
Post # 6
I’ve been with my guy for more than seven years and have not gone a day without talking. I guess we’re pretty obsessed lol.
Post # 7
a couple friends and i went to disney world in 2010. my husband (who was my fiance at the time) was at home. there were a few times i even skipped rides so i could sit and text or talk to him on the phone. it was that trip that decided for us that we were never going to be apart again because it sucked.
some couples are more clingy than others. but as long as you are clingy together, then it’s fine. everyone is different.
Post # 8
I would never go a day without speaking to my FI. We live together but if I am away for work for the week then he generally calls me in the morning and in the evening each day. (Tbh I could stick to just once a day unless there was something up but he seemed to like to call more than that and if he’s bored at home with no one else to talk to then I’m happy to give him some conversation).
Post # 9
That’s not very nice. Are you guys long distance?
Anyway, if you want to talk to him and he wants to talk to you, what’s wrong with that? Don’t doubt your relationship. Good for you.
My husband and I don’t really talk on the phone a lot, but we did when we first got together/ before we moved in together. I prefer not to go any day without speaking to him at least once, but when he’s on a fishing trip in the ocean, I don’t get phone calls. That’s ok. But that’s because he has a valid excuse. 🙂
Post # 10
Ha. Just let it roll off your back… Remember you’re the one with the awesome guy to talk to all the time! 🙂
Post # 11
@LadyBlackheart: That’s hilarious. What if you got married and actually LIVED together every day?! Now THAT would be nuts. lol
Post # 12
Tell that girl to mind her own business. My SO and I have been together for five years and we went one single day without talking (and I think we still instant messaged- back when that was still a thing). If it works for you guys, then don’t doubt it.
Post # 13
Obsessed huh? I talk to FI every day. Granted it is easier now that we have an apartment together but even before that we talked almost everyday (There was one summer that he lived with his brother in the middle of nowhere with no cell reception. We would have to redial on average 5 times to have a 30 min conversation. So we only talked every other to every third day.). I think comfortable is a better descriptor. I basically lived with FI for 4 months before I figured out we were dating. It wasn’t that I felt compelled to spend time with him just that I enjoyed it. We were both living under our textbooks anyhow. Might as well have good company.
Post # 14
@LadyBlackheart: I think it’s really rude of her to be that judgmental. Different strokes for different folks.
FWIW, I don’t think you’re “obsessed” by any means.
Post # 15
@LadyBlackheart: Yeah, if she’s never been in a relationship she just doesn’t understand the dynamic. Try to be calm and understanding with her- she might feel like she’s sort of losing your attention (even though you are clearly giving it to her!).
Post # 16
That sounds exactly like the things I used to say to my siblings when I would tease them. I’m sure it wasn’t out of malice, but unfortunately these things can be taken the wrong way. As the others have said, every one’s relationship is different and what works for some doesn’t work for others. If chatting every day is working for you and your SO, then there’s nothing to question! 🙂