"You're the one who has to love it!"… or no?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’ll likely get flamed for this, but I think the first is an easy ay to assuage a poster’s insecurities about a ring.  Often a ring that isn’t deemed perfect or highly desirable by the group as a whole.  

The second, to me is about bringing someone back to earth and realistic expectations.  Or it could be simply reminding the poster that her SO may be hurt if she outright rejects his ring choice.  

Post # 5
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1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I get what you’re saying and honestly to me I think it just depends on how the OP comes across.  I’m also one who believes that it’s a ring you’re going to wear for the rest of your life…you should love it.  That being said if someone posts that they hate their ring, their fiance didn’t spend enough, it’s not big enough..etc that comes across as more then just not happy….but to me, ungrateful. I think people have a hard time sympathizing with someone like that.

Yeah, I just really think it depends on how it comes across.  I also think anytime you post on these boards asking for opinions and advice you should be prepared for negative comments….and pretty much expect that it’s going to happen..even though I think some can be downright rude and I think that’s uncalled for. 

 

so, I get what you’re saying…not sure if I answered any questions..

 

 

Post # 6
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10986 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t see any real conflict in what you’ve observed. In one case, the Hive is being supportive of a bee’s choice of an e-ring style that she loves (and to which her fiance does not necessarily object), even if it does not happen to be a very popular choice. In the other scenario, the Hive is addressing cases in which a bee’s fiance has chosen an e-ring style that he desired to give to her but which may not also be a style that the bee would have chosen for herself. In the former, the conflict seems to be between the bee and other people who may not appreciate her personal taste in jewelry. In the latter, the issue is whether or not a bee’s FI, as the giver of the gift, should be able to select the ring without the bee’s input, or have input himself into the style of the ring.

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