Post # 1
I was engaged once before and I suspect that many of you were, too. My first fiance hinted that the wanted the ring back and I laughed at him. It was .5 cts, nice color, the best he could do and I was very happy with it. My new (and final) fiance bought me a beautiful ring a couple of months ago that I wear proudly. Now, I want to buy a stone that matches my old engagement ring to make a pair of diamond stud earrings. My FI says that it’s tacky and insenstive to him and that he doesn’t want to see anything on me that came from boo #1. What do you think?
Post # 3
@chachaD: I can see where he’s coming from, and would respect his wishes… I would be upset if my SO still wore something from an ex. The stone shouldn’t mean anything to you…what you should do is sell it, and use the $$ to buy a brand new set of earrings 🙂
Post # 4
I can understand where he is coming from. Every time he looks at them, he is going to think about where it came from. Objects have memories attached to them, no matter how much you change them, Why don’t you sell it and let someone else take joy out of it (and then it is recycled still!)
Post # 5
Both of your responses are sensible and the solution is so straight-forward. I have to admit, there is a part of me that wants to keep with me a little something from that time of my life. I never want to see my ex again and I don’t regret what I’ve done. I do wonder how I would react, though, if he walked through the door or showed up at my cubicle.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
I think it’s just jewelry might as well find a use for it. I mean you could always sellit but i don’t know if you’dget what is worth.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
I woulsashay respect his wishes, take the diamond to a reputable jeweler to sell or trade for diamond earrings.. Make up the difference in cash. New stones, the earrings you want, no emotional attachment to ex: everyone wins!
just saw the comment about a wanting something from that time in your life to remember…. And I understand, but I also think that your current fiance’s feelings are more than validated by that sentiment of yours. If you want to have something, keep it in a drawer. If you want to wear something, it can’t be jewelry from your ex.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t. I would sell it.
I don’t like to keep anything with bad associations to me or to my FI. Your FI has bad associations with this diamond, so I say get rid of it. His feelings count more than a silly stone.