(Closed) “Racist Rip Off “

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree that this post does not sound of racism or racial discrimination.  I also wanted to say I hate the phrase “pull out the race card” or “pull the race card”.  I think it is so condescending.  TKS!

Post # 18
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257 posts
Helper bee

I don’t have a problem with that phrase at all. Its not condecending in situations where it is true.

Post # 19
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2009

How did you receive the dress in the mail? I ordered my dress from Betsey Robinson’s bridal as well. My experience with them was great. Not once did they not listen to any of my concerns or questions.  I watched my consultant take my measurements and then check them against the manufaturers sizing guide.  It was also explained to me that although I measured a 4 in nearly every area, my chest size measured a 6 and that is why they suggested ordering a 6 but would order the 4 if I wanted them too.  I found the people who work there honest and up front.  Not once did they try to waiver from my budget when looking at dresses.  While it is never fun to have to pay more than expected, it is highly unlikely that any wedding dress you purchase is not going to need any alterations.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Also wondering why race is an issue here.

Post # 21
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee

Well you are entitled to your opinion, but I find it condescending because it is often used to demean people when they have truly experienced racial affronts.  Please remember it is impossible for someone to hide their racial identity and poof, surprise it on someone.  It is a badge that they carry on their face everyday.  Now the poster felt slighted for racial reasons.  Whether that slight was justified or not is really unknown because she has not responded to the questions or comments on the situation.  When you say she pulled a race card, you are putting your own judgment on the situation without precise knowledge of what happened to her.  To me, it is somewhat hurtful and ill-informed.  Just my simple opinion.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmmm… I’m intrigued too.  The race issue is lost on me.  This has happened to tons of people that I know, all of whom are of different races.  It’s crappy so I’m sorry you had this experience.  The wedding biz is a tough one.

Post # 23
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

*awaits OP’s explanation*

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m thinking the oddest part of this post is that the original poster only has 1 post and it is on a very confrentational issue. I would’t get too worked up about it until we hear back from her. Some people just like to stir the pot. There are always 2 sides to race issues. 1 side being those who have never experienced them. and the 2nd side people who have experienced them. Those sides will never see eye to eye. That’s why “certain phrases” are tossed around so easily; & can be soo hurtful without even meaning them.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

at least they ordered it too big.  better to have more fabric to work with than not enough – which is what happened to me.  my salon ordered it too small. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 I’ve always had to order dresses that are too big. I just don’t get the alterations done at the bridal shop-I go to my dry cleaners. lol. they do try to force everyone to get bigger dresses.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

Sorry you had a crappy experience, but that’s really common. You generally order a dress to fit the biggest part of your body and they tailor it down to size on the smaller areas so it fits you perfectly everywhere. It’s easier to take it in for a custom fit than it is to let it out.

That said, I’m still not really understanding why this is racist?

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

omg… annoying. how is this racist?

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

it isnt.  Bottom line.  This is a common practice.  And the OPs wedding was back in July (review was posted on weddingwire) so Im curious as to why this is now just arising..in either case, its frustrating, but its common

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

Just as a note to anyone who hasn’t ordered their dress yet- when you get measured, ask to see the sizing chart even if your consultant doesn’t readily show it to you. You should always pick your own size instead of letting someone else pick it for you (after all, you are the one paying for the dress). That way this type of thing can be avoided, racist or not.

I’m also confused about how you got your dress in the mail.

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