Post # 1
My fiancée an i are perfect for each other, but his family ohhh boy I don’t ever feel good for them its like they don’t care what he wants in life they only care about how they feel. they keep a lot of stuff that i need to know away for me so i have to go through my fiancée just to get anything. Then it starts a huge fight between us because he wants me to just let things be and I’m not that kind of person. I cant count how many times I have gone home crying because of them. But I love him so much it just gets harder to deal with his mother and his sister. His sister tries to find anything out about me and talk so much trash about me to her friends and distant family that its hard for me to even be around his distant family because of her. And his mother just makes him feel like the black sheep in the family come to think of it his dad does it too… I know if I marry him I’m marrying the family….. What do I do?
Post # 3
How does your Fiance react when his family treats you badly? If he isn’t standing up for you and putting his family in their place, then you need to have a serious discussion with him now.
His family will always be his family (and they are about to be your family). You need to figure out a way to get along with them.
You should also consider premarital counseling (if you aren’t already). It will be good for you and Fiance to discuss issues like this with a third party.
Post # 4
i want too get pre marital counseling but my fiancée and his parents look down on it they think it is a god thing and i am a “god” thing and yes he does stick up for me but he is so tired of it that he doesn’t even know what to do anymore were the black sheep of the family were both just lost….. but thank you!!!!! I appreciate your post
Post # 5
When I first met FH we had similar issues. It took A LONG time for it to work out (we have known each other for 10 years and just now his mom and I really get along). He needs to be willing to work with you — if you want to go to counseling, he should support you and go to, regardless of what his family thinks.
I agree that if you marry him, you marry his family. This definitely needs to get resolved before you get married or you’ll be miserable.
Post # 6
Huggs!! You could always persuade your Fiance to move to another state after the wedding.