Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
We have a a couple that has STILL not rsvp’d and haven’t responded to phone calls/emails. However, they’re close friends, particularly with DH and we feel bad about discounting them. We’d like to send them a final email; would this sound okay:
“Dear A&B,
We’re still waiting to hear on an rsvp from you for our wedding celebration on 2/19. We’re going to order all the rentals soon and need an accurate count. If we don’t hear from you by XXdate, we’ll assume that you’re unable to make it. Hope you can though, so please call or email us asap!”
…Too strident? I’m kind of annoyed right now.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
no that is perfect! how annoying for you!
Post # 4
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Newbee
Your wedding is in 2 weeks & 2 days. I would be DONE with them and would not bother to send anything. Not angry, but clearly they are not being considerate.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Send the email and if they do not reply to that final attempt, then plan for them to not attend.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
@JennyW1: I’d say that’s more civil than I would be at this point. Especially if they’re supposed to be close friends… Somehow that’s so much worse!
Sheesh. How annoying for you, hope it all works out either way!
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
im with ya girl! i need to give my venue a number on monday – out of 191 people invited we have 112 yes a few no’s and like 50 who havent responded (all on FI’s side) looks like he will be making phone calls this weekend.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
Sounds great! Send away! Hope you hear back! I would be soooo annoyed as well!
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@totheislnds: 50?? What a pain. That is so inconsiderate of people.
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
People suck. Plain and simple. Your email is much nicer than I’d have the patience to be in your position. 🙂
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
I think this is perceftly fine. It gets right to the point that you really need your head count.
If you can I would send a read receipt and a delivery receipt with the email, so you know that they got it and read it. (In outlook all you have to do it click on “Options” halfway down there is a box that says “request read receipt” and next to it there is another box that says “request delivery receipt” just click those boxes and you should be good to go.)
Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
@EmeraldR: Fiance comes from a HUGE family – his mom is one of 12 kids, his dad is one of 15 – and he is one of 13 kids…he has like 76 cousins.
alot of those 50 wont be coming – but let me know! ya know?! haha
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Thanks bees!
Part of the reason that we’re doing this second chance is because DH is close to them (well, to the male in the couple). If it were up to just me, I’d write them off–this is one example in a long list of how they’re just sort of generally self-absorbed.
You’d think that after months on this site that I wouldn’t be surprised that people would say things like, “Oh, sorry, we were trying to figure out if we were going to take vacation that weekend (really?? REALLY??)” but I’m still sort of shocked at the lack of courtesy with RSVPs!
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
@JennyW1: If it makes you feel better, I had 7 family members waffling about whether they would come or not up until the day of the reception itself. I had a buffet, so I had some flexibility in the amount of people I could feed, but I did tell them at about 2 weeks out that they had until 10 days out or I couldn’t guarantee enough food for them if they showed up since I had to order it 10 days out.
They still couldn’t make a decision in time. People just sometimes really don’t get that this isn’t a party that you are running down to the store the day of and that you have to plan for the food well in advance an then also the tables/chairs/centerpiecs. SOOOO frustrating!
I think what you wrote on here is just fine though. Good luck! Hope yours get the picture better then mine did! 🙂