Post # 1
I am going as my BF’s +1 to his best friend’s wedding soon. They haven’t registered and have made it known they would prefer monetary gifts. as the +1, should I chip in money with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for the gift? I know the couple, we’ve hung out with them several times and we go out to celebrate for each others’ birthdays and such.
I didn’t give money for their engagement gift, because Boyfriend or Best Friend said it wasn’t necessary. Should I now, though? thanks for your advice 🙂
Post # 3
It’s up to you and your boyfriend how you work this out. Don’t give two separate checks; that would be odd. If you want to chip in and your boyfriend does too, then do it. Otherwise, don’t bother. I personally have never contributed to a gift when I was a +1 and have never asked people to contribute to gifts when they were a +1 (here, I’m distinguishing between “and guest” and being invited as a couple).
Post # 4
Get a gift card, put it in a card, and then BOTH of you can sign the card.
Post # 5
@Beckster329: agreed. It would be weird if you gave them a separate check and card..
This definitely depends on your relationship with your bf and how you guys handle your finances.
Post # 6
If you feel like you know them well enough that you’d like to give them something, just chip in with your boyfriend and both sign the same card. Makes it easier.
Post # 7
While we were dating/engaged, my husband and I always jointly contributed to wedding gifts if we both knew the couple. But it really depends upon your relationship and what you guys are comfortable with.
Post # 8
If your Boyfriend or Best Friend is inviting you as his guest, then you should gift the amount of money appropriate for a couple. Whether he pays the full amount, or you pitch in, is totally up to you guys! You can’t go to a wedding accompagnied and give a cash gift equivalent to only one person. The whole purpose of the cash gift is usually to cover the cost of the plate of your guests. IMO
Post # 9
It’s up to you and your boyfriend. I wouldn’t feel right going to an event and not contributing to the gift, but that’s just my personal feeling!
Post # 10
I think you should at least offer. If your Boyfriend or Best Friend again declines then that’s ok…but I would expect, even if he doesn’t take it, he’ll respect the fact that you offered it.
Post # 12
I personally wouldn’t if I were addressed as the +1 and not by name. For example, my fiancé and I are going to a wedding in 3 weeks. They addressed me as “and guest” even though we have been engaged over a year. So I am not chipping in money for their gift. My fiancé is taking care of it all.
Post # 13
thanks for your input ladies
I really don’t mind contributing and I will offer. if Boyfriend or Best Friend says “thanks but not necessary”, then at least I tried. and then he can give whatever he thinks is appropriate
Post # 15
@armychica06: That’s soo rude! I know some people don’t think about it but when its been for awhile then that’s just unncessary.
@lolaswann: If you want to, it would be nice but not required at all.