Post # 1
Please, someone tell me I’m crazy.
It’s 1 month until my wedding and I’m having twinges of photographer regret. I chose my photographer because of the warmth of her images- photojournalist style, captures emotions. I’m hung up on Photographer B, who shoots a more fine art style and makes everything look so beautiful (DC/VA brides- its Adam Barnes). I made the mistake of emailing Photographer B and he’s still available on my wedding date…
Has anyone felt this way?
Post # 3
@BooRadley: I totally feel this way. I wish I could make the decision again. I don’t even know that I’d find anyone I would like better, though. Since I am a pro photog, this is one area that was just going to be tough for me no matter what. We got our engagement photos back recently and they were fine… but I didn’t love them, and I know part of that is because they I weren’t how *I* would have taken them.
That being said… I’m definitely not going to shop around. If you had hired an inexperienced photog or someone whose quality of results you were really worried about, I’d tell you to find someone else… but if it’s just a case of a different style, I’d probably say it’s not worth losing the deposit over.
If you don’t care about losing the deposit, I guess you could look at other photogs. But if the one you have hired is professional and does great work, I’d feel terrible for her as even though she won’t refund your deposit she probably won’t get another wedding for your date with only a month to go.
Why don’t you share your hired photog’s website? Then we can tell you how wonderful she is and make you feel better! (Or we can tell you that you should run away…lol).
Post # 4
@BooRadley: You’re crazy!
But in all seriousness, the vast majority of your wedding photos will be candid moments, not posed portraits or detail shots. It’s easy to lose sight of that when all you see on wedding blogs are portraits and detail shots (and I wanted those, too!), but it sounds like your photographer will be able to capture the moments that matter. You made a great decision!
Post # 5
@BooRadley: It sounds like you hired a professional, so you should be good. You can’t regret images you haven’t seen yet. Changing photographers at this point may be possible, but you can expect to lose the entire amount of what you paid with the first.
Post # 6
Haha. Step back. Walk away from the email. That’s a tough one. If I was your photographer I’d be seriously cheesed and would keep every cent you’d given me so far. I take a 6 month payment as well so 2/3 of my payment is made before the wedding really rolls around. But I understand how much it sucks to have this other guy on your mind. His work is lovely. Without seeing the difference between the two…I’d stay just try and forget him. Haha!:)
Post # 7
@BooRadley: This is going to sound totally indulgent, but photography is really important to me so I’m going to put it out there – can you have two photographers on the day? Or perhaps one for a shorter period of time, just to capture the more formal, dramatic portraits that it sounds like you want?
Or, if it’s certain images you are swooning over, maybe brief your current photographer to ensure s/he gets those shots on the day?
I am all for the photojournalist style myself, personally. I think it’s important to capture the fleeting moments, the warmth and emotion of the day.
Post # 8
@peonyinparis: Not indulgant, I’ve thought about that! Since writing the OP, I went back and looked at my photographer’s work and I think it will be good. I think my nerves were just getting to me- only 1 month left!