Post # 1
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179 posts
Blushing bee
Ok, so basically, one of my Fiance’s clostest friends has a really shitty girlfriend. NON of us like her at all, she’s rude, controlling and never makes an effort to engage in conversation or social gatherings. She’s cold, and arrogant, but pretends to like everyone.
which is really awkward. Becuase my fiance REALLY wants his best friends there, but we REALLY don’t want to pay £50 to have his girlfriend come too.
I don’t want to have to pay £50 to have someone at my wedding, who I don’t even like!
But he’s said that he won’t come unless she can come too, as he doesn’t want to sit alone – even though he knows LOTS of people there, and has close mates there too.
I don’t know if I should just let her come, and get over the fact she’s there on my special day.
Or if I should stick to my guns and refuse to invite her. But I don’t want to upset my Fiance if it ends up being my fault one of his clostest friends doesn’t come to his wedding.
I don’t really know what to do?
help?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
@nearly_mrs_griffiths: We’re in a situation kind of similar to this, but a bit worse, and I refuse to invite the girlfriend. If neither of you want that person there then I’d make it clear that she is not invited. Does his friend know how you two feel about her?
I’m sure a lot of people will say that it’s the kind thing to do to invite her and that you should, but I think if you two feel that strongly about her then don’t. Truthfully, it’s your wedding, invite who you want to.
I guess it all boils down to truly how badly/if his friend will actually come if you don’t invite her, and do you think she’ll do something to ruin your wedding?
Post # 4
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Helper bee
@nearly_mrs_griffiths: Unfortunately I think you’ve got to invite her. As much as you might dislike her, and for good reason it seems, he means something to your FI’s best friend, and it would be rude to invite him alone knowing he’s in a relationship with her. Not only that but it could do irrevocable damage to your FI’s relationship with his best friend. You guys may not like her, but he is important to you, and therefore him having a good time at your wedding is likely also important to you.
If she comes, just stop by and say hello to her to be polite, but there is no need to spend your time engaging with her.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
@erinbacher: Oh no! hope you get everything sorted!
thanks. It’s a hard one. We don’t want her there, but it’s trying to work out if it’s worth putting up with her just so my fiance’s best mate can come. xx
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@LilySarah: this is true also.
The main problem is, my Fiance is having to knock some of his family members off his day guest list as we just cannot afford to have that many people there. he has a HUGE family, and it’s the main cost of our whole wedding, paying for his family to eat haha!
So it’s like, he’s having to invite some of his family to only the evening reception, yet we might have to invite someone we don’t even like to the whole event.
it’s hurting my brain.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@nearly_mrs_griffiths: That sort of changes the situation. What does Fiance want to do? Is it more important to him to invite another family member or is it more important to have his best friend in the wedding? Also, is this friend a groomsmen or the BM?
If the guy is a groomsman I think you really have got to invite her, as he is doing your Fiance a favor by being in the wedding, paying for the tux, and planning a bachelor party, I assume. If not, though, you have a leg to stand on with him for a reason to not invite her. Are you inviting SO’s of other unmarried friends?