Post # 1
Hi everyone, How do you guys feel about giving +1 to guests under the age of 18? My FI has a few family members (2 cousins, and a sister) that are 15-17 (His sister is one of my bridesmaids). I have a family friend whos daughter I grew up with and baby sat for that is 16 as well. None of them are in relationships but just as etiquette goes how do you feel about +1 for under 18 guests?
Post # 3
@SLuce021: You don’t need to give a +1 for guests under the age of 18.
Post # 4
You don’t need to, but if you can afford to, I’d invite them to bring a friend or a date.
Post # 5
I don’t believe in +1s for anybody (invite people by name, if they’re not in a serious enough relationship that you know their SO by name, why should you pay for them to bring a random person), and I really don’t believe in them for family. Family for sure knows other people there, they don’t need the security blanket of a date. Sit them together and/or with their parents and they’ll be fine.
Post # 6
I like to give +1s, but when it comes to teenagers I’m on the fence. If you can afford it, sure. Everyone likes to have a friend at a party, particularly one filled with grown up family members. If you can’t afford it, though, I can’t see anyone getting irritated. We’re giving +1s to 18 and over, but not to the high school aged ones. Unless they ask. Then we’ll probably go ahead and say “sure, bring your boyfriend.” Our philosophy is “the more the merrier” when it comes to parties. Plus, at our venue the under-21s are a cheaper rate. By a lot.
Post # 7
We are inviting 143 guests already and thats without plus ones. We do need a minimum of 150 guests for the larger room we will be in for the reception. I was going to give plus ones to guests that wont really know that many people at the wedding. I am still undecided. If I need to meet a minimum it will probably be a good idea to give +1’s out anyway.
Post # 8
I’m allowing my siblings (12 and 17 at the time of the wedding) to invite a couple of friends. The majority of guests at my wedding will be my age and up or a young child. By allowing them to bring a guest or two, they aren’t the only ones at the wedding in their age group. A 12 year old won’t have much fun at my wedding if the guests are all 22+ and 6 and under. If she has 2 friends her own age there, she’ll have much more fun. I love her and want her to feel comfortable and have fun, so I’m totally fine with having someone I’m not as close to there for her sake.
Post # 9
I’m allowing a +1 for under 18. I have my cousins/ family members under 18 and it wouldn’t seem right not to let them have a +1
Post # 10
ehh, I wouldn’t do it. Probably because I am not the biggest fan of teenagers, especially at my wedding.
Post # 11
Would they normally have this person at a family event? Is this someone that the family buys gifts for at birthdays and holidays? This would be my criteria for whether or not to give someone a plus one at pretty much any age.
I had a cousin who dated the same girl from when they were 13 up until they got engaged in college. She was a regular fixtrure at family events and was always included at weddings etc. We celebrated her birthday and gave her Christmas gifts every year. She was part of the family long before she officially was.