At the time when we were debating over when to get married, I wanted sooner rather than later. However we were both in school full-time and my heart was talking more than my head! In hindsight, I’m so glad we waited. The hardest part it seeing other couples we know get engaged after us and married before us, but at the same time, we have had all this time to make our big day EXACTLY what we want. No rushing. No taking out loans to pay it off. I thank God that it worked out how it has. Not to mention, we needed to feel what real life would be like outside of school. I just finished my first year teaching, he started grad school and is interviewing, so everything is looking up.
Oh yeah, the antsies…. DIY practicing and starting a healthy regimen (yes, even 3 years in advance!) can help with that! I was certainly antsy but please learn from my mistakes:
1. Don’t impulse ask someone that you just started be best buds with to be in your wedding. Matter of fact, wait until at least 8 months before you ask unless you’re certain!
2. Try on as many dresses as you want. In my case, we went to one bridal store and I tried on a dress the mannequin in the waiting room had on after the attendant brought me others I wasn’t keen on. I loved it and decided to order it! And this was WAAYYY before the wedding date was even set in stone! Yes, I’ve seen so many pretty ones since then, but I know how indecisive I am and going to 5 different bridal stores would have made it more torturous for me. If you want 50 stores, have at it. If you just want to go to one, that’s cool too! I am so happy with my dress and can’t wait to start getting it altered soon!
3. Go to bridal shows. With all that time, you can cash in on so many free prizes since you can go to so many! We won a Carnival cruise at a cookware show and plan to use it for the honeymoon, and the people contacted us through a bridal show.
4. Choose your colors by what you like and is timeless, not by the hottest trend. You’ll look back and be thankful. You have so much time to play with colors and look through magazines!
5. Unless you really like cutting pictures out of them, don’t buy every bridal mag you see. A few a year is good, but they are mostly ads (and the same ones in each mag) and the vital information can be found at that magazine’s website. Plus they aren’t cheap if you add it all up!
6. Book things you are sure about as early as possible. We decided on our reception sight in Nov. 2008 and booked it for May 2010. We needed to be within 18 months and we hit it on the mark! Thus, we are paying a 2008 price for a 2010 wedding!!!!
Those are all my tips for now! Does anyone else recommend tips for a long engagement??