- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I have a dilemma and did not talk with SO about it yet. I definitely don’t want kids at my wedding. I know it is a family event but the nature of an evening party that follows a ceremony at a church that NEEDS to be quiet, is not a good scenery to bring babies.
The problem is, by the time of my wedding the only grandchild in the family will be one year old. The dad would be my SO’s best man (his broher) and I want to ask his wife (the mom) to be my bridesmaid… I’d hope they would not conside bringing the baby. I’d feel bad if they wanted too bring the baby and I was the one who does not want baby at the party and ESPECIALLY duing ceremony. Is it appropriate to ask the parents to ask too leave kid at home, so they can be partying with us and because they have important roles at the wedding (best man and bridesmaid), to not bring the baby, so tey can stay up long and not have to leave early because of the baby? It’s one evening for SO and I to celebrate… I thoght to first find out if they want to bring a baby… and of yes, then I would not ask her to be my bridesmaid, because it would be too much responsibilty for her… all the family memebrs I want them to celebrate with us, not to babysit at the wedding.
Other option is to at least have one room in church where all crying babies would go for the ceremony. I heard some bad stories about babies behaving badly at the ceremony and at the wedding party where paents do not feel responsible to care for them. I want to have fun with everyone who actually understands the elebration and can bahave. I feel bad for having this strong emotions, but wedding is stressful enough and this would substract the stress.