Post # 1
My Husband and I were pretty close to a couple who’s child is having a 1st birthday party soon. We were invited, but they live across the country in CA, while we’re in FL. We were invited to the baptism also and sent a nice gift, should we send another gift for the birthday?
We’re sending a card, and I thought it would be enough, but now I’m rethinking the decision if I sent a gift to a baptism… and not a birthday. Problem is, we’re both students and kinda broke. What’s the etiquette on this? Thanks!
Post # 3
You could send a $5 board book, but it’s not really necessary!
Post # 4
I don’t think there is any etiquette on this. You can send a present if you want (there are plenty of great $5-$10 gifts for that age) or you can just send the card. Either is totally fine!
Post # 5
I would just a send card with money and be done with it. This way the parents can use it to see what fits with their child
Post # 6
@Mint2BMrsB: I would only send a card. This couple is pushing the boundaries if etiquette as far as I am concerned. If the intent is not to solicit a cross country gift from someone they know cannot attend, but to just keep you informed, I think a card or email from them would suffice.
Post # 7
@Mint2BMrsB: you can send a card without a gift. The kid is not going to hold it against you, I promise 😉
Post # 8
@julies1949: +1! Sounds like the parents might be soliciting gifts. I would just send a card.
Post # 9
I would send a card…if you decide to send anything else, maybe you can use a coupon and make them a cute photo collage for a couple of dollars at walgreens/cvs (check for coupons) that they can frame with pics of the baby over the first year.
Post # 10
@Mint2BMrsB: I don’t know the exact etiquette, but I will say this: a child has one baptism but lots of birthdays. So IMHO (in my humble opinion) there’s nothing wrong with sending a gift only for his/her baptism. Send a birthday gift and you might feel obliged to keep doing it for the next 18 years!
Post # 11
@Mint2BMrsB: I would sent a just a card.
Post # 12
@Mint2BMrsB: I would send a card but if you feel like a gift is necessary I always give books or PJ’s & they’re useful and a big hit.
Post # 13
@Mint2BMrsB: You sent a gift for the baptism that’s enough. They probably had a baby shower and everything already. Just send a card expressing your joy for their baby turning one, and maybe a framed picture or something small, but I would not spend more than a couple of bucks