Thinking of you. I hope the visit was okay. The necklace sounds beautiful with such special sentiment.
hi there. I’m a graduate of this amazing board, and I’ve been where you are now. Zero count, high fsh, donor conversations, hope for tese…. If you want to talk, I’m a PM away. My story is that they did a diagnostic biopsy and (huge surprise!) found sperm, which was frozen. We switched REs (hated my first, LOVE my second), and the new lab did a post thaw analysis. Nothing survived, and I was devastated. Our RE says we should find a new mfi urologist (the other was too far away), and he would try to schedule my egg retrieval on the day of the tese. We also had to have donor sperm on hand as backup (and dh did a 180 on DS, at first saying if a baby couldn’t be bio both of ours, it should be bio neither of ours, then he decided that if it couldn’t be bio his, then he REALLY wanted it to be bio mine; before the procedure day, he even asked the RE if we should reserve a couple of my eggs for DS even if the tese does work, just in case any sperm they find from him isn’t good, our re smiled and said I could always make more eggs later). We found a local MFI doc, and he talked to my RE to coordinate. I was monitored super closely while I stimmed, and it all worked so both procedures were on the same day. Dh was in the OR for several hours. The urologist didn’t see obvious sperm, but got as much as he could for the embryologist to analyze. Late that night my RE emailed me that the embryologist had just finished- She worked for 9 hours looking through the surgical specimen to find enough sperm to match (icsi) with my mature eggs. I’m forever grateful for her efforts. The next day, we learned that 9 eggs fertilized (out of 23 mature, tese sperm fertilizes only 40-50%, something we were prepared for). On day 3 we had 7, and on day 5 we had 3, with others still possibilities. We transferred 2 on day 5. On day 6, three more made it to blast, though one was iffy. That fresh cycle was a bfn, and I was devastated. Because our frosties were dh’s only chance for a.bio child (the tese was a one time thing, he started testosterone replacement after), my doc ran more tests on me and found an endometrial issue (an issue sine REs think is nothing, but I didn’t want to take any chances). After going on a therapy that put me through 3 months of mini menopause, I prepared for my fet. We transferred 2 day-6 blasts, including the iffy one. I got a bfp. After a beta scare that had my re telling me to prepare for the worst, we had an ultrasound which showed 2 sacs. One was perfect, and one was empty (blighted ovum). Late in my pregnancy, I asked dh if we should dispose of or donate our donor vials, and he said he wanted to hang on to them. Even before the FET, he said he was tempted to just move forward with the DS. He thought his sperm was the problem, and he just wanted to be a dad, regardless of biology. After an overall pretty smooth pregnancy, our son made a surprise appearance 4 weeks early, but was otherwise healthy. And we have 2 frosties, and the DS vials, on ice. Best of luck to you, and again please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or need support from someone who’s been there.