(Closed) 1+ Year TTC part TEN

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Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@pinkshoes:  As amazing as those travels sound, I really hope the baby department wins this year!! FX

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@Ms.Bookworm: Thank you! And woooohoooo!!!! 22 is amazing!!!! Wonderful news!! FX FX FX FX!!! And haha to the sperm closet – DH has to do the same as we’re over an hour (with traffic) away from our clinic – he hates it also!

ETA: She’s adorable!!!

Okay, time for me to actually get some work done today.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have followed this thread for a few months now, however, I have always hestitated to join because we haven’t been trying for a year yet – only 9 months. I always felt like I would be imposing on other women who have tried for a year or longer and did not want to demean anyone else’s difficult journey.  I have always suspected it would be difficult for us to conceive (just a gut feeling…no real “reason”) and after 7 irregular cycles with delayed ovulation and hard to predict cycle length, we got a referrel to an RE.  We met with her in November and have been going through our diagnostic testing etc. and so far, my HSG has shown a blockage (hydrosalpinx) in the right fallopian tube.  We had to get some other routine testing done (turns out I am a carrier for cystic fibrosis, so hubby had to get additional blood work to test for this in the likely event that we need to go the IVF route), so we haven’t been able to go back in to see the doctor and discuss everything yet, but that is finally scheduled for next Friday.

After the HSG, I was feeling particular beaten down and read through the threads and found hardtoconcentrate and saw how similar of a position we were in!  She encouraged me to join to board and while I still feel like a bit of an imposter, knowing that we have a difficult road ahead of us after some concrete evidence, it makes me feel a bit better about joining the thread and giving/receiving some much needed support! 

Age (if you care to share): Me 28/DH 32

TTC since: March 2013

Issues (if any): Irregular cycles, short luteal phase, hydrosalpinx on right side (will likely need to remove right fallopian tube and assess the left – praying the left is ok!)

Chart?: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/ethorn13

Currently: CD36 6DPO

Supplements/how are you going about your BFP:  Prenatals, B6, B-Complex, Iron, Pre Seed, charting, timed intercourse

When I get my BFP, I’ll celebrate by: 
I have no idea….right now we know that it is highly improbable that it will happen naturally – we are looking forward to meeting with the RE next Friday to discuss next steps

If it’s not this cycle, we’ll:  
We are pretty confident that it won’t be this cycle, however, I am still charting and we are timing intercourse as best we can.  Looking forward to meeting the RE and moving on…which will likely be to surgery to remove the right tube.  

Since TTC after 12+ cycles (or with IF) issues, is a very different experience than a fertile couple trying in the first month, how do you stay connected to your SO?

We have very good friends of ours who are dealing with infertility – 4 years of trying and 4 failed IVF attempts and unexplained infretility – so when we started, I started charting right away.  I had a gut feeling that it would be difficult for us and I have always kept my husband in the loop from the beginning; I explained the basics of having sex near ovulation and what the charting was indicating so that he he was involved with everything.  I think at first, he thought my fears of having a difficult time trying to conceive were silly, but keeping him informed of my cycles helped him realize that while we didn’t know anything yet, we knew at the very least my cycles were irregular.  So, when I said we should see a specialist, he didn’t balk…he was on board, even if it was just to rule everything out. 

I think keeping him informed and involved from the beginning has made our conversations easier and helped to keep him educated.  Now, while we face a difficult journey, we are still able to talk about our options and situation openly and honestly and make sure we are on the same page.  While sex is still about “baby making” as it has been for awhile and can often seem more like a chore…our conversations about the future have been great and we support each other tremedously!

Just for fun…What hobbies/activities do you do to give yourself a break from TTC or just for fun?

I love to work out – sometimes I don’t “love” it while I am actually doing it, but I love how it takes my mind off of everything and makes me feel accomplished after. We began fostering dogs a few months ago and continue to do so when we have availability – it is extremely rewarding to give dogs a sense of security and work with them before they find their forever home! 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Yellow.Clover:  Ouch. Yeah, I can understand preferring it be totaled.  I got a new car in July and I can’t imagine dealing with that.  I’m sorry. πŸ™  And it’s funny you say that as people dealing with IF how our minds work – I was on the phone with my sister yesterday talking about this surgery and how if it’s not until 2/13, that’s two more cycles lost, and how as someone with IF, I think in cycles, not days or weeks.  So, I can relate.  I’m sorry, hun.  You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers as always. *hugs*

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Age (if you care to share): Me 28/DH 31

TTC since: NTTP Feb 2012, TTC a few months after maybe June.

Issues (if any): MFI

Chart?: Stopped charting completely.

Currently: CD 21

Supplements/how are you going about your BFP:   Supplements, Folic Acid, currently awaiting appointment with RE to chart the way forward.

When I get my BFP, I’ll celebrate by:  Shake a lot, then thank God profusely.

If it’s not this cycle, we’ll: Continue working with an RE, most likely do IVF.

Since TTC after 12+ cycles (or with IF) issues, is a very different  experience than a fertile couple trying in the first month, how do you stay  connected to your SO?

 We recently started reading together. We’re a bunch of home bodies so nothing too interested, we’re trying to save so date nights are usually at home.

Just for fun…What hobbies/activities do you do to give yourself a  break from TTC or just for fun?

Gosh I’m so boring. I started back going to an excercise classes, and started watching a lot of DIY stuff on Youtube.

 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

And since everyone’s sharing, here’s a picture of my brand new birthday gift from DH. Sorry, it was taken from an old phone so the quality is super crappy. I would try to get some from my new phone soon.

ETA; She isn’t this small anymore, so maybe not so brand new, got her in November.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ethorn13:  Hey!  Welcome!  I’m glad you joined, it’s a hard place to be, feeling alone, knowing that you have an issue like this and that natural conception is unlikely without some intervention.  It’s great that you took the initiative to take some steps early in this process and now you’re well on your way.  I hope the level of intervention you need is minimal and you get your BFP sooner rather than later.  I’m looking forward to hearing how your RE appointment goes next week!

It’s so crazy to me that tubal issues are one of the less common infertility issues, and having a hydro on one side is much less common, yet there are so many of us on this board who have discovered this issue in the last couple months (3, I think?).  It gives me hope that I’m not as alone as I thought when I got diagnosed and I feel really good about all of our chances!

 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HopefulForLittleOne:  Thanks.  Yes, it was the HSG that showed the issue.  I don’t think a saline u/s would show it because doesn’t that just look at the uterus and not the actual tubes?  I’m not completely sure because I haven’t had that done.  I have been reading on lots of IVF boards lately story after story of women who had multiple failed rounds of IVF before having an HSG, discovering a blocked tube, having it removed and then having a successful round.  I’ve also read that many IVF clinics won’t perform IVF without having the blocked tube removed because it reduces the success rate so much.  Definitely worth looking into to be safe.  By The Way your pup is absolutely adorable. That pic cracks me up.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

While we’re sharing pics of our children, here’s mine:

Freshly groomed and happy to see me:

 

Hiding from the cold weather:

 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsMonty11:  

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@Yellow.Clover:  Thanks for welcoming me! My biggest hope is that each of us have as short of a stay here as possible, though it is a blessing to have the support of each of you. I will call today to see if the office has reopened, so I can reschedule. I’m pretty anxious to get the ball rolling! 

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@wandering_gypsy:  I would be lying if I said I didn’t experience moments of bitterness. About once a month I have a good cry, but with the help of DH and a little willpower, I move past it and focus as best as I can on the positive. I would never wish these struggles or infertility on anyone, but I will say it has definitely opened my eyes and given me an appreciation for so many things I may have otherwise taken for granted.

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@hardtoconcentrate:  I currently reside in Indiana. DH and I moved to here to attend college in 2008 after we graduated high school. I am originally from Southern New Jersey and still have most of my family there, though my parents and youngest brother moved to Indiana 2.5 years ago. I really love both places, but as they say, “you can take the girl out of Jersey, but you can’t take the Jersey out of the girl.”

 

 

And, I’ll join in with a picture of my baby as well.

This is Mabel, our black, flat-coated retriever. We adopted her from a shelter in mid-October, and she is the biggest love. She has added an amount of brightness and joy to our lives that is immeasurable. It’s like she was always meant to be with us. To say she has taken some of the sting away from our TTC woes, would be a complete understatement. I am beyond thankful to have Mabel in our lives. I don’t even mind that she takes up most of our bed at night, or acts as an alarm-clock on the weekends!

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oops. Updated on old thread. 

Update: for any of you who didn’t know, the RE appointment today was a joint meeting between the reproductive urologist and the RE to move forward with IVF. So the urologist saw DH and then we all sat down. DH’s sperm count went up slightly from 0.8mil/ml to 1.3 mil/ml (so basically not much better)  and urologist basically congratulated us and said we fall into that less than 1% who conceived naturally with severe  oligospermia. This is truly a miracle. All I can think though is that his has to work out. Doubt we can defy the odds twice. RE seemed to think progesterone and beta were great but sensing my anxiety she said she would give me suppositories if I insisted since there was no harm. Repeat beta tomorrow. If it’s great, u/s end of January

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Yellow.Clover:  I saw your add!  Thanks πŸ™‚

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@ethorn13:  I had a left sided hydro that was just removed in November!  I had been TTC for 2 years before that, with no luck.  I completely understand how crappy a diagnosis a one sided hydro is.  I still keep on stressing myself out over my one tube that is left… What if it is damaged too and it is just not evident? 

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@wandering_gypsy:  He is a rotti/shepherd/lab mix.  I will spam my post with pictures so you can see πŸ™‚

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@hardtoconcentrate:  Thanks!  I have a bunch of forms to email over today.  I am getting nervous :S 

As for the lap recovery, I had the surgery midday and stayed overnight.  However, about 4 hours after the surgery I was able to get out of my bed (with help!) and go to the bathroom on my own.  It got progressively easier throughout the night, and by about 9pm I didn’t need any help to get out of the bed.  I was discharged at about 9am and then spent the next couple of days on the couch, but again, I was able to get up and move around no problem.  I didn’t even need to take the T3s they sent me home with. The most uncomfortable part was the bloat!  They inflate your abdomen with C02 during the surgery, and it dissipates after 7-10 days post surgery.  You just feel gross.  Also, I bleed very lightly, for about 5 days.  Nothing too crazy.  I felt quite normal about a week post surgery, other than reduced energy levels, and even went to a concert!  DH and I were able to start BDing again 10 days after (told to wait 1 week), and there was no pain.  The stitches were a bit annoying as they dissolved (they left the ones in my belly button to dissolve), but the others that were removed one week post surgery were fine (2 stiches on my left abdomen, about half way between belly button and pubic area, 4 stitches centered right on the pubic hair line).   Let me know if you have any other questions!

 

And now for my dog pictures….

 

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@HopefulForLittleOne:  

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@hardtoconcentrate: 

My hydro was actually found via regular ultrasound (I had one giant hydro), but then was confirmed by HSG.

And yes, it is bizarre that there are three unilaterla hydros on this board!  We are all just special πŸ™‚

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