(Closed) 1+ Year TTC part TEN

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 122
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ethorn13:  Sounds like you and your DH are in a similar position to us.  I have $5k of “infertility” coverage on my insurance, but that’s only for diagnostic testing, not for IVF.  Luckily my laparoscopy is covered as a non-fertility procedure (well, at 80% so we have to come out of pocket for $2k of it), but IVF won’t be covered at all.  Thankfully, we’re able to pay out of pocket for IVF, but it is frustrating to spend that kind of money, knowing that this comes free to most people.  But, I guess the small blessing in this process is that at least we’re able to pay for it. I keep telling myself that everyone has struggles and just because this is free to lots of people and we have to pay for it (both financially and emotionally), something else in life comes easier to us than others, and it all comes full circle.  At least that’s what I tell myself to make myself feel better. πŸ™‚

 

ETA: Holy crap, I just saw where you live!  That’s my hometown where I lived all my life until a few years ago!  We live a couple hours away in NC now but VB will always be home.  We actually visit friends and family there at least monthly, sometimes more (just got home a few days ago and will be back in 2 weeks). I’m assuming you guys are there because your DH is in the Navy?

Post # 123
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@lindsayandchris09: I agree with @hardtoconcentrate:, that’s wonderful coverage (A)!!! I’m actually quite envious. My insurance only covers 50% (I really shouldn’t say only, because I am very grateful to have any coverage pertaining to IF) on anything other than IVF, which they won’t cover any.

 

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@lonsk: Haha, I heart you (B)!! Thank you so much for your kind words. I truly hope both of our BFPs pop up very soon; I think it’s about time we get out of here! And, eh hum, see exhibits A, B, C, D, E, F, G. You think you use a lot of exclamation points? Now I feel like I probably get on everyone’s nerves with my over use of exclamation points, but what can I say, I get really excited (C)!!!  haha. πŸ˜‰

 

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@ShellVee: My points exactly – crazies I tell ya (D)!

 

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@wandering_gypsy: Ugh, I hope the doctor calls back soon. FX those new tests come back much better (E)!

 

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@hardtoconcentrate: Awww…Thank you (F)!!! <3 XOXOX And, boy do I LOVE using this one, “No! Don’t you remember saliva kills sperm?!” I don’t think there’s ever been any better information found on the internet πŸ˜‰

 

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@Ms.Bookworm: Hmmm, that’s strange. I’m so sorry. Hopefully everything has gone as planned and it just hasn’t fully ruptured yet. Did they do blood draws (estrogen) to confirm it was an actual follicle and not a cyst?

 

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@ethorn13: I agree, it is so frustrating. I could go on and on about how unfair it is for us, who obviously desire children so badly, to have to pay thousands upon thousands of dollars, but I’ll save that for another day. Glad to hear though your surgery will be covered, hopefully a natural miracle will occur before taping into your savings.

AFM, cycle related, things have been quite strange for the past few days. My boobs have been incredibly sore since Monday and I still haven’t O’d. Okay, the no O part is not abnormal for me, but I’ve had increased EWCM since Saturday and no ovulation (I usually only have two days of increased EWCM before O). The confusing part is the sore boobs. Usually they don’t hurt until several days after O, and usually not this bad. Every minor bump in the road makes me cringe. I did google it and it seems rather normal to have sore breasts before, during, and after ovulation. Has anyone here ever experienced sore breasts before O?

Now for an update on the car situation: This morning we received a card on our door from a sergeant of criminal investigations from an outside county – cue major freak out. Of course we’ve done nothing wrong, but let’s face it, seeing this on your front door isn’t the best of ways to start your morning. So I’ve been not so patiently waiting for a return phone call. Long story short – he’s the one who hit our car (G)!!!! So now we will only be responsible for one 1k deductible – hallelujah!

Post # 124
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@lonsk:  Thanks for the welcome, I actually joined in November, but took a break from the bee, so I don’t many people remembered me. Before I joined, I used to silently stalk the 1+ year boards, and was amazed at how strong all of you ladies are. I remember you talking about your Mother-In-Law, and my husband and I are in a similiar situation, except it’s his brother. His brother has no job, (got fired for not going to work, has happened at every job) so obviously no money, and has been living with us (bumming off us) for the last two months. I’m all for helping people out, but he won’t work “just anywhere”. We’ve been getting in disagreements about him staying lately, and I fear that the longer he stays the more strain it will put on our marriage.

 I’m sure it might get old, but I have everything crossed for your next IUI and will be praying for you and all the ladies in here!

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@hardtoconcentrate:  It is great coverage, and I am very thankful for it. I pray that a BFP will come soon, but if treatments are needed, I’m so greatful that we have the coverage, because if for some reason we ever needed IVF, we would be childless, because there is no way we could ever afford the expense.

 

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@Yellow.Clover:  No advice on the sore boobs, as mine are always after O, but hallelujah on the deductible!!!!!! πŸ˜‰

Post # 125
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Yellow.Clover:  *waves* hiiii! That’s fantastic news about your car! Yay. Also, my breasts would get a little sore right around O, subside for a few days, then come back with a vengeance until AF. Here’s to hoping its a good sign that you will O soon. πŸ™‚

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@hardtoconcentrate:  keeping my fingers crossed that your surgery goes well and results in a much earned BFP in a few months. 

Post # 126
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@lovemygsp:  Hey lady! I hope you and baby girl are doing great! How did you like those super cold temps Monday and Tuesday? Us South Carolinians definitely weren’t used to that!

Post # 127
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@lindsayandchris09:  I understand completely. DH and I were getting ready to buy a house and have been planning that for two years, but now we’ve put our plans on hold because the house down payment we’ve been saving may need to go toward IVF.  Ahh, the joys of TTC. πŸ™‚

 

 

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@lovemygsp:  Thanks, hun!  How are you doing?  You’re in the third tri now, right??  So exciting!

 

 

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@Yellow.Clover:  Hahahaha SO true! πŸ˜‰

Post # 128
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@hardtoconcentrate:  I totally agree! We keep telling ourselves that we are so fortunate to have the careers we do so that we can actually pay for Infertility Treatment…there are so many people in our situation who simply run out of options because they just can’t afford it.

We are actually in Rhode Island now (my home state).  We husband and I met when he was stationed in Newport, RI, then we moved to VA Beach for four years when he was stationed there. We were married in VB. He got stationed in Groton, CT in July so we could be closer to my family, so we moved back to RI! What a small world! 

Post # 129
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Buzzing bee

hey everyone. I’m not sure if I still belong over here, but you ladies have been a wonderful support. I’m always reading, even if I don’t always respond.

For those that don’t know our story, we’ve tried for 2 years, and tried pretty much everything. They moved us from explained (PCOS) to now unexplained, because I have successfully ovulated almost every cycle for 2 years. We still have 1 frozen embryo, but won’t be moving forward with it just yet. The docs were going to present our case at rounds today to see if any of the other docs have any other ideas. We also had a lot of fetilized eggs, but only 5/23 became viable embryos. So lots of questions.

We have howver moved forward with international surrogacy with donor eggs. We picked our donor, and have booked her. She starts the down regulation on Feb 1, med’s March 1, and hopeful egg collection on March 14th-ish.

We still have to pick our surrogagte, and of course travel to India to have DH make his contribution. That should happen over March Break. 

I feel hopeful for the first time in a long time. It also makes me feel better that if at this point it doesn’t work it’s not my “fault”. 

Still coming to terms with it not being my biological child. But at this point I just want the baby. I will imprint on it in other ways. I am also looking into the possibility of induced lactation so I may be ale to BF it/them.

I will check in later (not from my phone) and say hi to everyone properlly.

Post # 130
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@ShellVee:  Haha! Myself I wanted to see a doctor as soon as possible to see if anything was wrong (I still have a hard time believing there’s not with 2 1/2 years of good timing, clear tubes, 4 IUIs and good numbers on DHs side) so that I had something to tackle. I actually went to the doctor at the 6 month mark (knowing it was a long waiting list for the RE) but was laughed at and told it was “normal” to take so long and could not get referred until the 1 year mark. Needless to say I found a new doctor. If you choose to see a doctor I hope everything is okay or that they can find a successful plan to get you that BFP but please don’t be afraid to see a doctor – we will all hold your virtual hand!

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@wandering_gypsy:  Sorry about the BFN, hope your day gets better.

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@hardtoconcentrate:  Embarassed ours too. I have actually had times when he has walked in the door and I’ve shouted “Pants off!, let’s go” because we literally had like 10 minutes before having to return to work. Romance is dead – haha! 5K sucks, I have been lucky with most medications having 80% coverage but everything is out of pocket – totally blows.

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@Ms.Bookworm:  I agree keep up the BDing (though I know it can get hard to ‘ahem’ perform back to back but I am sure you will catch that egg.

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@Yellow.Clover:  You make me SMILE!!! So so happy to hear about your deductable and finding out who was responsable, wonder why he didn’t leave the card on your vehicle after it happened but thank goodness he finally came forward. Ummm should you maybe POAS? maybe something crazy happened and you O’d early? (No pressure, I know you are ususally pretty dead on with your O day but I am looking for more miracles)

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@lindsayandchris09:  Oops! sorry, in that case “welcome back” I am sorry about your Brother-In-Law I feel for you, oh I get it hun. My only advice is try not to let it come between you and DH, make time for just the two of you (We didn’t do that and did not have a date night for well over 6 months – talk about bitter) Is it possile to put a time line on his stay? he sounds very amotivated and very willing to sponge off of your generosity.

 

VENT: I work with someone that took a little over a year to conceive her first baby. I have actually shared some of my struggles with her (unusual for me) as it seemed like she understood. She has told me how angry and jealous she used to get over BFPs. Fast forward – her son turned 2 on Monday and she is expecting her 2nd baby in March. All she does is talk to me about her pregnancy and how awful pregnancy and eary days of motherhood are and how she misses her old life. She frequently tells me how she “gets” how I feel. Really?! well I think she has forgotten her own struggles and is rubbing salt in the wound I mean I would give my left tit to be pregnant. I have said it before – I vow to you ladies, if I ever get when I get my BFP I will remember my journey, I will remember the emotional struggles we all endured and I will embrace my pregnant body, keeping my complaints to a minimum (certainly not openly complain about them to those I know have not crossed over to the other side) I will remember that I begged everyday to be out into this position.

Post # 131
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@andielovesj:  You always belong here! I am very excited for you, I know it must be difficult to come to turns about not having it be your biological baby but you WILL be a Mama! and how very exciting is that. There is more to being a parent then carrying a baby, a parent is one who shapes the life of a LO and you will be a great parent.  I hope you continue to share your journey with us.

Post # 132
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just came back from the appt with my RE and already I feel so much better than with my OBGYN.  She was like a completely 180, listened to me, looked at my charts, was more compassionate, acknowleged that I wasn’t an a complete idiot and that everyone on the web is not crap just cause it didn’t come from her mouth.  *vent over*

I’m on CD24 and she did a US today and confirmed that I have a 14mm folicle almost ready to go!  I should O within a week, and they said to call if I havent by next week, and they’d check it out again.  If I don’t get preg this natural cycle, she wants to try a 100mg Clomid cycle (I had 2 unmonitored cycles @50mg, with O on CD35 the second which is why she wants up increase the dosage) with monitoring and a trigger, possibly progesterone as well pending this cycles levels.  I’m actually feeing a lot better going forward with this RE and with more monitoring with more info instead of just blind cycles.

Post # 133
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@pinkshoes:  So glad your RE was great!, I remember that feeling of relief and positivity after my first RE appointment. Looks like we are in the same boat with finally getting some monitoring and not going at things blind – yeah!!! FX you have success naturally with this cycle. 

Post # 134
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ShellVee: You are definitely welcome here! I have short cycles too, and I was on cycle 14 or 15 by the time 1 year ttc came for me. I had a really short cycle last month too (23 days) for no apparent reason. So annoying. But GL hun I hope your stay here is short and sweet!! Also, your kitties are so adorable!

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@smcopp89: Thanks girl! πŸ™‚ And my RE appt is on the afternoon of Jan 14 as well. 

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@wandering_gypsy: Well I’m glad they didn’t find a tumor! But I’m sorry that you’re unsure of what to do now. Since your insurance doesn’t cover a fertility specialist, I would think it would be a good idea to ask to be referred to an endocrinologist. GL hun!

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@hardtoconcentrate: Haha thanks lady! There’s not really anything interesting going on with me at all! Just hanging out at 7dpo. I O’d early again this cycle (CD 12) and I’m wondering if it has to do with the Serrapeptase. I’m hoping my leutal phase is longer than 11 days this time. I have my RE appt on Jan 14 so it might be a close call as far as being able to start Femara next cycle. How are you doing? Have you noticed anything different with your cycles since you started the Serrapeptase? I am so happy that you got your surgery scheduled. I can’t wait until it’s all behind you and I have a good feeling you will be PG very soon afterward!

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@Yellow.Clover: Thanks hun! And I absolutely love that quote, it’s so true. How is everything going with your car and being able to get back to your house??

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@picturemeurs: Thanks! And I know what you mean, I wish I would have taken more puppy pictures too. They grow so fast.

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@HopefulForLittleOne: I’m going to say that you should trust your gut and request the HSG. I would never want you to look back and wonder “what if?” ya know? That’s just how I am though, so if you don’t end up having one I’m sure it will be just fine. It just might help put your mind at ease a bit. 

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@WillowB: Congrats hun, I am so happy for you! You should not feel guilty AT ALL! You deserve this so much and I’m wishing you the healthiest and most uneventful of pregnancies. πŸ™‚

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@lindsayandchris09: Aw thank you! πŸ™‚ And yay for health coverage and great coverage at that! Hopefully you guys never have to do IVF so that 30k will be more than enough!

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@Ms.Bookworm: Wow girl those numbers are fantastic! I’m keeping my FX for you!!

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