Post # 781
Current cycle : 13
Current testing : more blood work (FSH, LH, prolactin, CD3/21 progesterone) and SA for my husband. Should all be done this cycle
Current therapy : none, going to try to move my oct appt up by a week so I see the doctor right before I start oct cycle (15 argh) in case he wants to Rx meds since all the testing will be done
Post # 782
Hi bees, joining this board since I wasn’t getting a lot of love over on the POAS.
Your Age/Partner’s Age: 31/32
How long you have been together/married: together 7 years, married for 2
How long you have been TTC: a year and a half
Known Issues/TTC History: it looks to me that i have late ovulation and a short luteal phase (9 days)
Your TTC plans for the next few months: (fertility meds, supplements, OPKs, BBT charting, NTNP, etc) I just finished my first round of cycle monitoring with no meds, and it seems to have confirmed my theory about my late ovulation and short luteal phase. I got AF this month five days before they wanted me to come in for my pregnancy blood test. I’m starting another round of cycle monitoring with no meds tomorrow and I’m anxious to ask my nurse about my progesterone levels since I seem to have all of the symptoms of low progesterone and this would really explain my infertility for the last 1.5 years. I’ve also read that pregnancy loss is a symptom of a luteal phase defect, so I’m feeling very grateful that that isn’t something I have experienced. I won’t see my fertility specialist (doc) until mid-september so I’m feeling a bit anxious to get some answers.
Just for fun: Where is a place you’d love to visit soon? My husband and I are Canadian and taking our first trip to LA in October. We’re thinking about spending a couple nights in Malibu which looks absolutely stunning. Definitely open to any recommendations. I’m also trying to coerce my husband into going away for our second anniversary (labour day weekend), I found an awesome glamping spot in muskoka ontario but he’s feeling that it’s too much money! typical! hah!
Post # 783
Current cycle: We’ve been trying since April 2018, but this is cycle 10 post MC.
Current testing/treatment: Femara for now. I was diagnosed with PCOS, which is currently the explanation for our infertility. DH’s SA came back A+, so the problem is me and not him.
I am a bit…uninterested (for lack of a better word) because I don’t have any optimism left. Femara sucks (at least for me) but after speaking with my RE, it really is our best bet and I just need to suck it up and keep at it. We are doing a couple monitored cycles on femara and then having a ‘next steps’ discussion. Which, I think will be the RE telling us we need to do IVF because she’s already said she wouldn’t be supportive of IUI for us. She said it wouldn’t be much better chances than just doing the Femara, so she thought it would be a waste of time and money…but we could do it if I wanted.
I stopped roll calling and I don’t post as frequently anymore because I just don’t care about TTC. I hate femara, I hate that it won’t work for us but I am not ready to jump the IVF hurdle yet…so I am just wasting time, halfheartedly TTCing.
Post # 784
italianbride0508 : Oh no, I thought Femara was was supposed to be much, much better than clomid. I started on it this cycle and didn’t have many side effects. I’m sorry to hear that this process has taken such a toll on you. It’s hard to keep hope when months and months go by with no results.
Will your RE do a trigger along with the Femara? That seems like it would give you the best chances without doing IUI or IVF.
Post # 785
ColoradoGirl : Yeah, i have heard the number of people who react negatively to femara is way, way lower than clomid. Plus you don’t run the risk of thinning your lining. But for me, it’s been super crampy, super headachy, horrible O pains (to the point of going home from work) and some nausea. Nothing so horrible that I can’t continue (because the ultrasounds all show that it is working great) but I just hate it.
I asked about a trigger and the RE said that based on my bloodwork and ultrasounds, I didn’t need it. She said I could add it if I really felt strongly about it, but she didn’t see any reason that it would significantly increase my chances. Plus, my insurance won’t cover it and it is pricey.
Post # 786
pennyk : Welcome welcome. I’ve found you really have to stick up for yourself with this type of stuff. Go ahead and ask them if there is anything they can give you to lengthen your LP.
italianbride0508 : I’ve gotten like that a few times too. “Fuck ttc cause it’s never gonna happen anyway” is what I’ve been known to tell myself. But at the same time I can’t stop cause I so badly want this.
Post # 787
Cycle number: 23
But only month 19 (short cycles). On CD22 waiting for AF to show.
Current treatment/ testing: hycosy at the end of the month. Date to see consultant in October when I hope to discuss suspected endo.
Post # 788
zebra10 : good luck! 31 is an amazing number!
Post # 789
Dr_dazzle : yeah. On paper, we look like we’re trying really hard. Our BD timing is great, but my heart just isn’t in it anymore.
Post # 790
italianbride0508 : I think I’m feeling somewhat similar to you. We will likely be scheduled for IVF towards the end of the year but we’re struggling with whether to go ahead with it. All my blood tests have come back fine and no issues with D.H’s SA. It’s a transition from thinking it will happen quickly for us to pinning hopes on IVF. I used to see a therapist for other reasons and wonder if it would help to talk to her. D.H and I go from thinking we have a pretty good life anyway to thinking will we get to our 40s and wish we’d tried IVF as early as possible. We’ve already decided that we won’t adopt so but I feel like there has to be a cut off point to TTC.
Post # 791
EllyAnne : Sorry bee 🙁 I know…chances are, we will need to decide whether or not to start IVF this fall, too. We are still on the fence about it, but like you guys, will we regret waiting? If you have a therapist you love, that could be a great idea!
Post # 792
EllyAnne : I tell Darling Husband that TTC is like a game of poker in Vegas. You keep throwing your chips in hoping to win the pot and at some point, you have to decide to get up and walk away. But figuring out which hand to leave on is so hard because maybe, just maybe, the next hand will be your jackpot.
Post # 793
larissakay : that is such an accurate analogy. I’ve never been much of a gambler (I’m the kind of girl who goes to Vegas for the food and the shows), so this is all very much against my nature! I guess you just have to want something badly enough.
italianbride0508 : EllyAnne : so sorry you ladies have been going through such a tough time lately. I have my good days and bad days too, but lately there seem to be more and more bad days. I haven’t even started IUI, and I’ve already convinced myself IVF is our only shot. Once you get that in your head, it’s hard to muster the energy to TTC month after month.
Post # 794
larissakay : Good analogy. I view TTC as mostly luck. All my blood test results, clockwork cycle and D.H’s SA would say there should be no issue but AF is about to arrive again and I just can’t see us facing any luck. As strong as out marriage is I don’t want us to end up spending our 30s planning around a pregnancy and family that may not happen.
We met with friends yesterday. They have a nearly 2 year old and she is pregnant with their second. She’s nearly 37 and said they’ll only leave 18 months and between this baby and having the next. They don’t know we’ve been TTC, very few people do, so they weren’t being insensitive. I just find it interesting hearing people plan the cycle they want to conceive. If it’s happened first time with two pregnancies then I guess you have no reason to think the third would take more than one cycle.
Post # 795
Cycle number: 15 or 16?
Current treatment/testing: Nothing at the moment. We’re getting our funds together for IVF. Hopefully that will happen in October.
I think I FINALLY O’ed this cycle. I was convinced it was another anovulatory cycle. It’s so typical… I posted publicly about our infertility diagnosis yesterday, I was so defeated, and then today I woke up to a massive temp spike!