1 year + TTC / TTC with Infertility

posted 1 year ago in TTC
Post # 947
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

MrsG2BIre :  so sorry it was cancelled, glad you won’t be waiting too long. 

 

Keep hoping to see some good news on here. AF has arrived for me and my friend sent the ultrasound pic announcing her 2nd baby today. I held it together, just. 

Post # 948
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

RaccoonKitty :  hope they’ll overcome that issue for you, let us know what he says. thanks for asking, I’m ok, just waiting on my lap appointment, could be any time in next 2 months (hoping not right before or right after Christmas). 

Post # 949
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - City, State

Hope everyone is doing ok.

We made the decision to delay our first round of IVF which was meant to be next month. D.H has a promotion and would be out of the country for 3 weeks after the transfer then home for a week and away for another 3 weeks. This is NHS and the clinic weren’t very understanding because I don’t NEED D.H there by that point. It’s a personal preference that I’d want him there to find out if it’s sucessful and if it is for him not to be away for that long early in the pregnancy. They are letting me know later today if I have to be referred back to my GP who will start the process of referral again. It’s a very flawed system. Ideally we would want to start end of March/ April instead but with being referred back to the GP it could be a couple of months later. Since first going to see a doctor about fertility I have been very much made to feel it’s all down to me. My D.H actually rang the clinic but they won’t speak to him about anything other than his SA results because it’s my name on the referral list. It’s really frustrating. AF arrived today so I’m not in the mood for dealing with the staff there.

Post # 951
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - City, State

Dr_dazzle :  Thanks bee. I’d already brought it up with them that we should both be able to discuss anything with the clinic. When we met with the consultant we’d already had D.H’s SA result but she asked him is it was ok to discuss it, yet we’d been talking about my results already. 

I’ve only told one friend that we are TTC and perusing IVF. I think everyone else thinks we are CFBC. The friend I’ve told thought we should go ahead with IVF next month as D.H not being there for the whole month and in a possible early pregnancy won’t change the result. I get where she is coming from as we’ve been TTC for a long time but aside from a week in June D H will be back in the UK from end of March and is really want him here. 

We are seeing friends this weekend who have a three year old, 9 month old and they’re are expecting again so it’s bittersweet. The 3 year old is the cutest though and he’s so excited about Christmas. I look forward to seeing them but D.H is ready to field the “your turn” comments. 

Post # 952
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

@EllyAnne sorry to hear about your delayed IVF. That’s disapppointing but I think it’s a sensible decision.

I’m still waiting for a lap appointment, it was supposed to be within 3 months from mid October so hopefully not long now.

I get about the friends thing, im meant to be seeing my friend and her kid tomorrow, and my other friend who is pregnant with her second child the next day, and right now I don’t know how I’ll face it.

We’ll be at 2 years TTC at the end of this month and I’m not coping too well right now, I woke up in extreme distress the other day after an infertility related dream which stayed with me all day and I sometimes feel physical pain when I think about it. I was off sick last week because I caught a vomiting bug and someone suggested it could be morning sickness and I just so wish it was. I’m kind of miserable right now but at other times I’m positive and looking forward to Christmas, so it’s not all the time I feel like this, but it is more often. I think there’s something about Christmas that makes infertility sting more.

How is everyone else coping with the festive season so far?

Post # 953
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - City, State

lucky_charm :  I was lucky with how quickly I had my laparoscopy performed. I live in East Sussex but fall under West Kent for operations and they are stretched to the limit so farm off operations to private hospitals. I had my lap in a nice private hospital not far from our home. I hope you get your date soon and if there is any issues they are easily dealt with.

My friend with a 2 year old isn’t well so Darling Husband and I are taking her son with us to a Christmas event with a Santa’s grotto on Sunday. Although my friend is always posting pics of the kid on Instagram and she wants me to get lots of pics I know I won’t post any on my social media as it just invited the ” your turn next” and “suits you” comments. I’m looking forward to it though. I’m obviously close to her son and I know how excited he’ll be. So it’s a weekend filled with seeing friends kids and a pregnant woman. FX I don’t get emotional.

No children in my close family at all so Christmas Day is an alcohol-fuelled affair. I actually really enjoy it. My sister is CFBC and my brother is gay with no desire to have children soon. Champagne start around 11am 🙂. I remember how we woke our parents at 5am when we were young and I can’t say I look forward to that if we are able to have a child!

Post # 954
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

@EllyAnne sounds like a good Christmas! There’s no children in our family either but I don’t drink, I’ll enjoy eating loads of food and playing uno though haha.

Post # 955
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Sugar bee

EllyAnne :  Sorry you’ve had to delay IVF. I think you made the right choice for you though. When we were going through it, D.H worked 4 nightshifts from the day of my retrieval… and that sucked. I had no one here to look after me if I needed it. Then he worked 21 days straight during the TWW and the week after we got the BFN, I would not reccomend it!! 

lucky_charm :  Sorry to hear you’re at the 2 year mark at the end of this month. I find Christmas particularly hard too… because it’s fairly child/family centric. And I think it drags up feelings of dread when you’re going through infertility. Forever anxious and dreading when the next idiot asks when you’re having kids! 

We decided to have Christmas alone this year. We are going camping, so I’m actually excited and not dreading it this year!

AFM: We had our follow up appointment after our failed IVF cycle yesterday. My doc is going to start me on high doses of FSH and LH from day 1 next time (he bumped up the FSH on day 7 last time), and he’s also going to have me take femara while I stim. We probably won’t cycle until Feb/March, but in the meantime I have Femara and scheduled BD and CD21 bloods, so we’re still doing SOMETHING at least!

Post # 955
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Happy new year long term TTC’ers. Hope 2019 is the year for all of us.

Post # 956
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Sugar bee

lucky_charm :  Happy new year! I hope all of us get our sticky babies this year <3

Post # 957
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

It’s kind of quiet on here with the monthly TTC with infertility but I’m not TTC this month so didn’t know where best to put this.

I had my laparoscopy today and they found endometriosis. Some was on the vaginal wall which likely indicates why I’ve found sex so painful. Some light endo was on an ovary. They were able to remove the lesions from these areas. But there was a big amount in another part of my pelvis (I thought he said on the womb but I was pretty woozy from the anaesthetic) which he said was going to be very difficult to remove. He seemed to be suggesting that it might be better to leave that alone whilst TTC. He said he could see no reason the endo would be affecting fertility but that they still don’t know a lot about it.

I’ll get my post op in 8-10 weeks and I assume options will be ivf (6 month wait list) or open surgery for remaining endo. I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience of having to decide whether to get more endo surgery or go straight to ivf? They’ll no doubt explain more when I go in but I basically had to push to have the lap so I’ll need to advocate for myself again most likely.

Thanks In Advance for any ideas.

Post # 958
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - City, State

lucky_charm :  I haven’t any advice I’m afraid as they removed all the endo they found but I wanted to wish you a quick recovery. I made my surgeon write down where the endo was as I didn’t think I”d remember it through the morphine haze. I hope you get some good advice at your follow up.

Post # 960
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

EllyAnne :  thanks for letting me know. I wish I got him to write it down! He showed me lots of pictures but I wasn’t really clear on what was what.

Dr_dazzle :  thanks, I’m definitely leaning towards asking to go for ivf over doing more endo procedures now. If I’m still in a lot of pain I’ll probably have to have it out at some point but from what I’m reading women with endometriosis still have reasonable ivf success rates.

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