Post # 1
1. Sometimes the person you believed would be the first to respond, will be the last.
2. Receiving RSVPs on a wedding site is fun and exciting. But there will always be a few guests, bless their hearts, who are technologically challenged.
3. Don’t take it personal if people don’t respond right away. Everyone is the main character in their own story. In other words, there’s plenty of other stuff happening outside of one wedding.
4. After the invites are sent out, it’s not a bad idea to casually ask if they’ve been received after a couple of weeks. In our case, a few never got to their destination! And we wouldn’t have known unless we asked.
5. People love chicken, lol.
6. Getting a response is awesome. Getting a personal message along with the response is even more awesome.
7. If the invites were sent out more than 2 months ago, don’t be surprised if people have forgotten dates and deadlines as you get closer to the day.
8. You will always get at least one or two casual “Yeah, I’ll be there” or “Just count him/her as a yes”
9. Sometimes a “No” is more welcomed than a “Yes,” as bad as that sounds.
10. I will always try to respond to future wedding invites early from now on. Karma.
Post # 3
What a great list! And I have to say, it’s refreshing to read something that is so positive about RSVP’s instead of the usual gripes 🙂
Post # 4
Totally agree with #6! From now on, I will always include a personal message when I send back an RSVP–they’ve been so nice for us to read.
Post # 5
I agree with everything you’ve put here. I’d also like to add:
11. A close friend sending in their RSVP over a month late for a no with no explanation, no note and no apology is a potential friendship-ender.
Post # 6
I couldn’t agree more about the personal notes – I never thought to do that before, and now I’ve made a personal vow to always respond in the first week, with a personal note. 🙂
Post # 7
Yeah #6 was something I wouldn’t have known without having it happen to us. It’s been so much fun reading the personal notes that each guest leaves with their RSVP! Some are funny while others almost brought me to tears!
Post # 8
12. Sometimes the person you thought would respond last… responds last…
Just sucks when it’s FI’s sister who hasnt’ responded and lives literally two seconds from our house.
Post # 9
Totally agree with the personal notes thing. Before I was engaged it never occurred to me. In fact I now feel really badly that when one of my cousins last year got married I hopped on the computer the first day I got the invite and rsvp’d no with no comment! At the time I thought nothing of it because she was getting married in Aspen and I didn’t have the money to fly there and go (and most of the cousins didn’t go because it was so $$)… so i just thought i’d be nice to rsvp right away. But now i feel like i should’ve at least sent her some well wishes!
Post # 9
Oh no, I feel really bad that I haven’t put a personal note on the RSVPs I’ve sent back!!! I’ll have to keep that in mind from now on!!!
Post # 10
I agree with #1, I thought my cousin who just got married a few months ago would be first due to the fact he had just put up with all that RSVPing headaches and such. But no respones! I had to facebook him to find out.
Also, sometimes people will forget to write their names on the RSVP. Or whether or not they are coming. Or in one case of mine, both.
Post # 11
I also love #6! When my RSVPs were coming in, I love the cute little personal messages that came with them! I now write fun personal messages back on every RSVP that I send back. And ditto on RSVPing for everything as soon as I get them!
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m surprised at the chicken thing. I like chicken enough, but when I go to a wedding, I always choose the beef or fish option. It’s, I don’t know, fancier or something.
Post # 13
I am purposely not having anything remotely chicken-related at my wedding, because my extended family (grandparents, aunts & uncles) used to (and still does, sometimes) tease me constantly when I was younger about how much I like chicken. You know what? My parents were happy chicken was my favorite, and not filet mignon!
But I’m with @danadelphia: when I go to a wedding, or any other fancier event, I want to choose something different… beef, seafood, vegetarian. Hmm, funny, that sounds like my buffet.
Re: #2: I started out with an RSVP page, but people started RSVPing before I even sent out the invites! I figured it would get too confusing, so I took it down. Besides, I paid for all those stamps, so people better use them!
Post # 14
#1 was completely true for us. My Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man have still yet to RSVP LOL. I just asked them if they were bringing someone and what they wanted to eat.