- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2021
I hope I am posting in the right place. This is more to give hope and courage to the waiting bees rather than bragging about being engaged.
I have been looking at this forum from time to time over the years, mostly around the summer months when everybody around was eating married and engaged and photos of the perfect day were popping up on social media left right and centre.
I was in a 10 year relationship that was going absolutely nowhere. There was love, affection, there were fun times,there even was talk about future (marriage and kids) around the 5 year mark, but all very elusive and non specific.
around 3 years ago, when I hit 28, I suddenly, overnight wanted a husband, wedding, ring, honeymoon, house, dog. My boyfriend of course didn’t.
I suffered in silence for the past 3 years, seeing all friends getting married or engaged. Thought about leaving him but I ‘couldn’t imagine life without him’, I was financially dependant on him, and I just couldn’t picture starting my life over again, dating and of course, there were no guarantees that I would be happier.
I never demanded a ring or set any timelines. I asked a couple of times where was I standing and the answer was ‘someday, one day, sometime’. The guy had 10 years to propose. A week after my 31st birthday, I left him.
A couple of months later, a man whom i’d Known for years as an acquaintance, asked me out, I fell head over heels in love, and within 6 months he proposed to me after ‘he couldn’t wait to marry me’. Yes ladies, there is someone out there, you might even know him already, who will not drag his feet and marry you in a heartbeat. Don’t waste your precious time in a stale relationship where you have to prove you are good enough, pretty enough, smart enough. All the best.x