Post # 1
I’d rather not be in massive amounts of dept for our first years as husband and wife so is it wrong of me to skip a meal and just have a very simple rave type reception? If all goes well our wedding won’t be over 4,500 and well have an even better honeymoon experience. Isn’t the honeymoon the more important part anyway? I just feel like I’m being cheap and like we won’t be able to have a nice wedding compared to what people are posting on this site. It’s not like waiting will help us either were paying for this ourselves and I know 10K won’t ever just be lying around for us. If I do pull off a 4,000 wedding I’m sharing it with the world because 10…20…50 THOUSAND dollars is pretty nuts.
Post # 3
We are having a black tie wedding for $6000. It all depends where you want to spend the money and where you are willing to save it.
Post # 4
I’m having an expensive wedding because the things I want happen to be expensive.. but we all have to do whats right for us, right? Have whatever wedding makes you happy and spend your money where you choose 🙂
Post # 5
I was hovering around the 8K range. If I can get it for less, I will! And it really is about where you want to spend, and what’s most important to you and your Fiance. Glad to know there are others in my $$ bracket!
Post # 6
My wedding was only $6600 and I loved it. 🙂 You definitely don’t need to spend 10k or more if you are willing to be creative. 🙂
Post # 7
@HappilyEverAfter54: 50 thousand isnt pretty nuts when you have the money. A 4 thousand dollar wedding may look nuts to someone who has 0 dollars. Youre right though, the honeymoon is the important part. Thats all im hearing, and honestly, after all your heard work, you and your Fiance (husband by then) are going to want to relax!
Post # 8
What do you mean by “rave type reception?” Casue all I could think of is all that E is prob gonna cost you about as much as a meal anyway.
Post # 9
I don’t knock anyone for having the money to do a big wedding! Every couple is different in what they want in a wedding and where their priorities lie. What isn’t important to one bride may be really important to another. As for me, I think our wedding will be VERY nice on a lower budget. you can still make it what you want on the cheap :o)
@HappilyEverAfter54: It’s really the thought that counts! And all your guests will be there in support of you and your Fiance. No one should be worried about how much $$ you guys spent! I’m sure your wedding/reception will be nice. And have fun on a honeymoon!
Post # 10
Mrs.tobe is correct: what matters most is how you treat your guests. “Cheap” when it comes to weddings ultimately refers to how your guests felt at your event, rather than the actual money you spend. If you treat your guests with grace and respect, they will happily munch on your homemade sandwiches. If you do not, they might be impressed that you served them sushi off a naked man’s body, but they will not think highly of YOU. Basically, you just need two things for a reception: shelter large enough to accommodate everyone and some type of food or refreshment. But the venue doesn’t have to be an ornate ballroom and the food can be just cake and punch.
The two problems that arise with budget weddings in my view are (although they are certainly not exclusive to budget weddings–expensive weddings can certainly still have them!):
1. Trying to pass the cost of your own event on to your guests. Accepting and appreciating the fact that stag/doe parties and cash bars might be the norm in certain regions, if it’s not common in your circle, don’t do it. Don’t try and save money by having a “tiered reception”–20 guests for dinner and then 200 for dessert sort of thing–or by decide you’ll keep rental costs down if you have everyone stand at cocktail tables to eat dinner instead of sitting down. In general (I don’t want to start debates here), offer only what you can afford. Modest or not, it’s still a gift and most people will accept it with pleasure.
2. Having unrealistic expectations and/or communicating the wrong expectations to your guests. If you are having a backyard BBQ, “black tie” is probably not appropriate. If you are doing cake and champagne, don’t set the event for 7pm, when most people would expect to be having dinner, and make it clear on the invite that they shouldn’t expect a meal. Don’t spend on “trimmings” you can’t afford at the expense of the essentials–so it’s great if you want a rave (do you mean dancing with techno and lots of bright lights?) but if paying for a sound and lights show means you can’t pay for people to eat, that’s not okay.
And by the way, if you’re going to do a rave, part of the whole “make guests comfortable” also means making sure that grandma has at least a comfy chair and some earplugs if she’s not herself a raver!
Post # 11
Haha Thanks for the feedback everyone, I’ts good to know others have done it and that it’s possible. This website was started to have me worried for a moment… What I mean by a rave reception is the music style and the lighting… We plan to serve beer and jungle juice (cause thats the cheapest we can go for the most amount of people) and people who would be drinking wouldn’t be dropping E because it’s pointless. I called it a rave for the style it is not anything else. For the first hour and half it would be slower music for the kids and older people (with all the traditional cake cutting finger foods first dance stuff) we’d then rap that up and have just our friends stay for the big party event. My friends wouldn’t mind sitting through the traditional stuff to get to the party and my family wouldn’t mind leaving around 10, so It all works out.
Post # 12
Although you’re planning on skipping a full meal, are you planning to serve any type of food at all? I think there has to be hors d’oeuvres or snacks or SOMETHING substantial to eat and not just beer and jungle juice. JennyW is totally right; your guests won’t think your wedding is “cheap” unless you do things that obviously make it seem as though they just aren’t that important to you.
Post # 13
that sounds fine. we are tryng to stay around the $7000-$8000 mark ourselves. Sunday’s are cheap (just do it on a long weekend). between Jan-March/April also gets you a nice discount as well.
Post # 14
for instance, a DJ with a starting fee of $1500 without add ons. He said he will take off $250 for being on a sunday, $250 for being in february, and $150 for coming to see him at the wedding show.
discounts are my friend. haha.
@ohheavenlyday: agreed. you need some bread to soak up the jungle juice or you might have some people that get too drunk way too quickly.
Post # 15
@ohheavenlyday:Yeah, we are having meat and cheeses, soda, juice, chips and candy. =)
Post # 16
Girl, you can have a beautiful wedding on any budget. I attended a wedding that cost $3,000 total. Sure, we didn’t have dinner, but that’s okay—I can feed myself. Despite the smaller price tag, it was a lovely and very meaningful event, full of love and joy from friends and family.
A word of caution: some users on WB may be offended at hearing how much they’re paying for a wedding is “nuts.” We all have different budget and capacities, and that’s okay! 🙂