- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2018
This is all going to sound a little harsh but, you do realize have a son and not a partner right?
A 28 year old should be responsible for his own finances and bills. You’ve taken over this responsibility and he was happy to give it over as any boy would but at the same time, he resents you for it. And of course he uses you! You’ve put a sign around your neck saying “USE ME PLEASE”! He guilt’s you into compliance and makes you feel bad about yourself. Name one time you put a consequence to his actions….just one example.
He spends as a child with no responsibility would. Hey you pay all the bills, take care of the home and all he has to do is spend the money. He’s got it incredibly good because you provide it for him. Why on earth would he ever want to change how he lives? More importantly, why would he marry his own “nagging mother” and why would you want to marry an immature, manipulative, self-absorbed little boy? Do you not see how this ends?
If he won’t create his own account, close your current one and create a new one with only your name on it and under no circumstances are you to provide him access. Give him his $$ and let him deal with it his way. Then move into a more affordable place or kick him out. Next, get some therapy to figure out why you would even want a life with this little boy and why you chose to mother him so you don’t make this mistake again. Move on with your life and find an actual man who knows how to take care of himself and cares about you.
Honestly, this relationship is the product of YOUR choices or lack thereof. You’ve put your life on hold to take care of this boy and you’ve grown resentful and of it. Recognize your role in this fiasco of a relationship and choose to do better for yourself.