I thought I’d reply to this post since I have personal experience with several layers of this story 🙂 But my overall advice is: it takes a super duper strong woman to take a look at a Downs Syndrome possibility and go “oh that’s okay I will mold to this” – I don’t think any women out there are like that. Your reaction is 100% normal.
However, I will say this. Your baby is, I’m sure, no matter if it has Downs or not, the most beautiful baby in the world. You look at yourself every day at the mirror and you probably think, “I have a baby inside of me oh my goodness.” You probably can’t wait for it to be born, and hold it and love it.
I promise you, that no matter if it has Downs or not, you will hold your baby and you will swear that nothing in the world will ever harm your child. Because that’s what mothers do. It may be hard to visualize now, but trust me, you will take your baby into your arms and, no matter what, love it ridiculously too much.
Because you’re a mom.
You knew the risks, getting pregnant when you’re older. My mom was 42 when she had my baby sister, and was told it would likely have Downs, and the doctor said she should get an abortion, and my mother absolutely refused. My sister came out perfectly fine. But I know my mom would have raised her regardless. I think you’ll be the same way.
My mom’s friend has a baby with Downs, and oh my goodness, that child is a whip. She’s in high school, nearly top of her class, and does three sports. It took a lot of work, but that girl is destined for great things because she had ridiculously supportive parents.
I think you’ll be the same way if that is your destiny 🙂
Sometimes, we’re just born for bigger or more complex things than we think we are. We get scared and think we can’t do it. But these tests results – it’s normal to be scared, for a bit – should not strike fear into your heart. It’s time to be strong, and keep plugging along for your baby, because a 1:13 chance is too small to even consider getting rid of it!