Post # 1
The planning of my bachelorette party has been the most dramatic and stressful part of my wedding thus far. And I sincerely hope the end of it, as I have little to no tolerance of drama. My MOH/younger sister offered to plan my bachelorette party/weekend early on and I was excited. We talked about doing a relaxing weekend at a lake a couple hours away. Everyone was ready and excited for a little R&R before the wedding. BUT we hit a few bumps early in the planning process; she attempted to schedule a weekend on her own, but was not successful. So I was added to the email list to help attempt establish a date. Once the date was decided upon, she remembered that her Boyfriend or Best Friend of 6 months had invited her home to meet his parents (and she just had meet her ‘potential future in-laws’ that weekend (yes, that is a direct quote)). One of my BM’s called her out on being selfish and all hell broke lose. I called her to talk about the issue and she hung up on me and refused to talk to me for a month. Finally, during a visit home, I reached out to her and we were able to work things out. I even offered her an out of planning the party so she could go meet her ‘potential future in-laws”, which she declined. We decide we wouldn’t go away for the weekend, but would do fun things in the city: a fun night with all my college friends and teammates and a calmer night with just my BM’s. But then a week later, I see on FB that she has registered for a half marathon the day of my bachelorette party. I called her to ask about it, and she says she forgot what weekend my party was on and would cancel her race. Great end of story; but not so fast. No less than an hour later I get the call that she is going to do the race and cancel our Friday plans, because she will need sleep before her race. She claims she will be ready to party all night and host a bachelorette party after her first half, but I think she is insane. Everyone I know has been absolutely beat after a half or a full marathon. So, I really have no idea how to handle this situation. All my BM’s, friends and family are pissed, but she just thinks I am not trusting and attempting to micromanage my own party….
Post # 3
Hmm…I dunno. I think I would be ok to party after a half (not a full, yikes!) but its her other behaviors that would give me pause.
Post # 4
I would tell her sorry, but she’s out. Do what YOU want, plan it yourself with your girlfriends!! I don’t see why you can’t just plan as a group, and let her either show up or not
Post # 5
If it’s In the same area I don’t think it would be impossible forsomeone to have evening plans afterward if they really wanted to. Whether she’s going to be willing to push through for you seems debatable from what you’ve written.
Post # 6
This sounds llike a total nightmare and she sounds unbelievably selfish.
Post # 7
All I wanted to do after a half marathon was eat and sleep. She doesn’t seem to care about you or your party at all. I would just continue with your own stuff and don’t let her selfishness get in the way of celebrating you! 🙂
Post # 8
As a half marathon runner, I would be excited for her. Halfs usually end by noon. If she is doing proper training, icing and foam rolling after I see no reason for this to be a problem. She should be hydrating and fueling the way through, plus doing an after run drink. If she isn’t training, doesnt fuel, or hydrate then you have a problem. Has she done a 11, 12 miler before?
If your BMs are pissed why don’t they plan it, pay and throw it then? Planning a Bach takes no time at all, and doesn’t require functioning legs. If you have doubts about her being able to party it up why not rent her a rascal?
On a side note one of my BM’s wanted to run a half for my bachlorette party, since she isn’t too big on the party scene. So I may be a bit biased toward the runner crowd. 🙂
Post # 9
@Captain013: Awesome on the Rascal option!!!
I think your sister is crazy and selfish. Why does she say she’s not doing the race and then one hour later she is doing the race. Why does she really need to do her race? If this is her first race and she not a distance runner, she may be too sore to go out in the evening. Can she wait to do her 1/2 marathon another time? She has the rest of her life to do one. She has this only chance to spend her time with her sister to make it a memorable Bachelorette. Ask your sister how she wants to be remembered…..a selfish Maid/Matron of Honor or the best Maid/Matron of Honor ever? Your sister just seems flaky. Is she gonna pull anything else before the wedding?
Post # 10
I LOVE the Rascal option. Thanks for bringing some fun and humor back to the trainwreck.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is not a distance runner, so I am pretty sure it’s going to be a struggle for her to go from 30 mins on the elipitcal to a 13.1 miles.
I am a little nervous what else is going to transpire before the wedding, but no use in worrying about it.
Post # 11
@evoorhies: She’s really going to miss out on all the fun if she does this 1/2 marathon if she does not properly train. Even if she trains she will be too sore to go out. We need to remember she’s a grown adult and it’s her decision. If she decides to do what she does, then that’s her fault and she’ll learn from it. If she’s smart enough, she’ll get advice from other runners, and think twice about doing this race.