(Closed) 12 years together and he's still lying to me. I don't know what to do.

• futremrswhite17
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2017

anonandon :  SOUNDS TO ME LIKE HE LIES JUST TO NOT HEAR YOU APEASE YOU. 

 

IDK. 

• msmeow85
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2018

anonandon :  Ew. I’m sorry but he sounds disgusting, like my ex from 15 years ago. I was happy as a clam to leave him by the end of the string of lies he put me through. Smoking is disgusting and lying about anything is just plain horrible. 

More than that, but he’s been doing it for 12 years, you said so in the subject line. I’d cut my losses and say goodbye. You’d be better off…

• Eirene00
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: June 2017

Why would you want to marry someone who is a habitual liar? He’s not going to change. Even if he seeks counseling…how do you know he’ll be going? Plus he would need to recognize his error of ways and make that change on his own not you telling him he needs to go. I had an ex bf that lied about everything. I couldn’t stand it and that’s why the relationship didn’t last. If you marry him, then be well prepared for the ride he will be taking you on for the rest of your life. 

• sensorites
• 4 years ago

I would break up with him if I were you… 12 years is TOO LONG! Honest relationships are worth than the bs 

• merrymargaret
• 4 years ago

Please tell me that you have left this guy.

• nadinejg
• 4 years ago

Hi,

I am sorry to hear about your husband, my suggest that if you are not a God fearing woman, consider the creator of marriage. Jesus Christ,  PRAY. I will be praying for you that you receive Godly wisdom on what to do. I am literally just listening to a vido on you tube about the attacks on  marriage. Consider yourself as well. Are you in need of changing yourself so that your husband can open up to you.  FIREPROOF, is a grea movie, pleaase watch it. WAR ROOM is another, take your mind of the problem and be wise, do not post your business online, most people sincerely do not care, can not help and will give you frivolous advice. Somethings are not clean cut or black and white. We do not know the FULL picture, only your side.

Praying that the peace of God overtake you and your husbband and bring you all together.

• secondtimecharm
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: March 2017

nadinejg :  He isn’t her husband. Thank goodness. 

• nadinejg
• 4 years ago

secondtimecharm :  ok, thank God, but sounds like they are. Soul Ties are real.

• beebee1983
• 4 years ago

Your advice to someone whose husband constantly cheats on her is to watch some youtube? 

Cool.

• beebee1983
• 4 years ago

Soul Ties are real.

No, no they are not.

• beelinetowhere123
• 3 years ago

anonandon :  Hi! Are you still together with SO? Curious. I hope things are progressing well either way. 

• MrsJumboKappo
• 3 years ago

BalletParker :  This comment is extremely helpful. My DH is conflict averse and he does similar things at times. OP’s FI’s lies appear to be over relatively minor things (not like going out and cheating) and if he is like my DH, he probably does these things because he does not want to face negative reaction from his loved ones.  Not sure if OP is still with her SO but maybe OP could reflect on how she reacts to her Fiance when he disappoints her. 

• MrsJumboKappo
• 3 years ago

tootsiebee :  This comment helped me.thank you. (although I’m not the OP)

• zpkj
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: October 2017

OMG. I hope you left this guy.

• Sunfire
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

The way you’re describing him he sounds like a sociopath.  You’re hiding your head in the sand.  He isn’t going to change.