(Closed) 12 years together and he's still lying to me. I don't know what to do.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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Helper bee

Ugggh….

Post # 77
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

anonandon :  

Pathological liars lie for the sheer joy of it.  They get great pleasure from putting one over on you.

The lies you know about—tip of the ubiquitous iceberg.  Counseling—a chance to hone his skills.  

Expecting him to change is like expecting a rattlesnake to stop biting.

Post # 78
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Busy bee

you can’t be his mother, parole officer, or authority figure if you want a happy harmonious relationship.

if he wants to eat mcdonalds and mess up his stomach and his own bank account fine (split the household funds as needed and you each have your own spending cash), his problem, he’s an adult. if he wants to smoke- let him! you decide if you want a smoker or not, and you don’t like it then leave.

i think a lot of these issues/lies could be solved by simply not making them your problem. if you don’t like the things he does, leave. he can change on his own or not.

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