- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Thanks for staying tuned to my China wedding recap. I had part 3 all set and done and when I hit ‘submit’, the page error (ed) out on me and I decided to call it a night. There were tons more pictures in there too! :’( Here we go again…
After I was allowed to take my veil off, we were minutes away from the wedding location. Here are some pictures of the entrance. The lions were huge and looked so cool. It was so touching knowing that all the people in the neighborhood came together to put up all these decorations. :’)
*A side note* Before the wedding, this guy came to stay in our home and was making signs from gasoline and gold spray paint on red wall paper. He was doing this for around 3 days and they came out awesome. There was one of my name written in Chinese but I don’t think I took the picture! Rats!!
When we stopped at the lion entrance, I started to become nervous again. As the doors opened, I felt a gust of energy sweep into the limo. There were tons of people outside holding cameras and some long tube-like confetti favors. My fiancé got out first along with our bridesmaids. He then told me to get out of the limo facing a certain direction again. I tried sliding to his side of the door but wasn’t able to make it on my own (lots of gown and stuff on). He then just grabbed me and pulled me out of the limo (so thankful he did or else I might have fallen). When I was outside the limo, we were showered with silly string and confetti poppers all around us. LOL…my fiancé was upset that his hair was covered in silly string.
We proceeded to walk down the long road towards his house. As we did, the Chinese band was playing music until we reached closer to where the crowd was. As we reached the crowd, music started blaring over the speakers. I walked under another two sets of red domes and came up to a pink hanging crystal tent with a stool in the center of it. I was told to sit inside the tent and my fiancé stood near me for a few minutes as the TV announcer began to speak.
He didn’t speak long before my fiancé continued on down the road and I was left in the tent with my mother in law and baby sister in law. I had no idea what was going on and it was FREEZING outside so the next several minutes blurred by me.
The announcer said more words, sang a little bit, and then a gold carpet was pulled out over the red carpet.
After that, my fiancé went to bring me to the front of the stage.
We stopped just short of the stage and the announcer said some more words to us and we had to respond with something in Mandarin. I’m assuming that was the Chinese version of ‘I Do’. Immediately afterwards, we went on stage to begin the wedding ceremony traditions.
First off, my fiancé’s old instructor was called on stage to read a few words and give us his blessings.
Then his parents came on stage and we bowed 3 times to them.
We were then told to bow 3 times to our large wall photo of us (LOL…don’t know why), then we poured soda down a few tiers of glasses (don’t know the meaning of it) and lit a ladder-like tier of candles holding the lighter together. It was so cold and windy that I’m surprised the candles stayed lit (wonder if they were trick candles).
OH! In the picture above, you’ll notice I have some sort of red thread around my waist. In the center of my waist was some sort of gold coin (I couldn’t really see the detail on it but it had two different sides). After a certain time in the wedding, my husband was supposed to turn the coin to the other side. I still do not know what this means so I’ll have to look it up but it was cool. 🙂
Afterwards, we began to call relatives on stage to give us wedding money. I was told to call out their names over the mic (I feel bad that I butchered their names) and yell out their names in a cute way of asking them for money. LOL…I enjoyed that and I’m sure I gave a good laugh to the audience.
When it was time for his parents to come up on stage, my fiancé went downstairs to meet them and walk them up. We then bowed to them again 3 times and the announcer began singing a song about parents. I had no idea what the words meant but the feeling was so strong that his mom and I both started crying. I still tear up thinking about it!
After all that was done, to close up the ceremony, we each drank a cup of the soda on the tier with our arms wrapped around each other. My stomach was about to explode since I never drink sodas and this was all I had in my stomach to eat. Sorry that the picture doesn’t really show it but it’s the only one I have! The announcer then said a few more words and my fiancé spun me around and we finally kissed. I wish our kiss was much longer but I guess that’s just how they do it over there. 😀
We then proceeded to walk down the stage. By this time, I’m frozen solid and I can barely feel my toes. My father-in-law then brings up a chair to me and they tell me to stand on it!!!! Wha???? LOL…I grab on to his and my husband’s shoulder and stand on the chair. They handed me a red handkerchief filled with confetti and glitter to hold.
My husband told me to keep my eyes closed no matter what and, when he says, to throw up the red handkerchief. THE LOUDEST FIREWORKS KNOWN TO MAN BEGAN GOING OFF JUST A FEW FEET AWAY FROM US!!! I could barely keep my balance and my husband held on to me so tight so I wouldn’t fall. It was painfully loud and I couldn’t even cover my ears because I was holding the confetti in my left hand. The guy with the fireworks went around us two or three times. Pieces of the fireworks hit me all over my face and eyes…imagine if they were opened!!
When they stopped, I was told to toss the confetti up and almost fell of the chair b/c of my frozen toes and it ended up looking like I dropped them rather than tossed them. LOL…
My husband then carried me off the chair and we made our way into his house and up the stairs to our wedding quarters. As we made our way into our room, two ladies gently dragged my little sister-in-law and an infant all over the bed (I’m guess for fertility and lots of babies). I thought it was cute. J
Afterwards, his little sister came in with a bowl of water and some sort of dried fruit or veggie inside. I was told to wash my hands with the water and pick up the item inside (I have no idea what that was for). She then handed me a pretty red towel to dry my hands and we gave her a red envelope with money inside as a ‘thank you’.
The local TV crew then came in and started doing an interview on us. I couldn’t speak enough Mandarin to answer but they did do a translation of what I said (I saved the recording!!). We then put our hands together to make a heart (super cute) and I mouthed the words to a very long and difficult sentence they wanted me to say – LOL.
Afterwards, I changed out of the horrible dress (LOL…I really did not like the dress and it was NOT flattering on me whatsoever) and into something more me. I had to wear a red coat when I went downstairs to eat with the a group of friends.
Luckily, they let us eat inside where it was much warm. Once we finished eating a YUMMY dinner (there was TONS of food and lots of variety), we then went outside to offer small shots of liquor to all the guests that came to see us marry. I lost count on how many tables there were but everyone was so warm and inviting with me. I loved the sense of community everyone showed and how sweet they all were.
The wedding wrapped up around 5:30pm and by 6pm, all the tables, decorations, and chairs were cleared away! They move fast!! It was real hard seeing it all gone as it was an experience I am so grateful for being a part of.
To say I was truly moved and grateful was an understatement. I was truly touched at how everyone came together to help make this huge wedding so beautiful and memorable. My last few days in China were so hard as I did not want to come back home. When we visited elder relatives that could not make it to the wedding, they all asked, “Is she pregnant yet?” LOL…NOT YET! The day we left for the airport was so sad. I cried halfway there and my mother-in-law cried with me. Letting go after hugging them goodbye was very difficult as I know it will be another few years before I go back to see them again.
The return flights home were the worst! All our flights were delayed and we had to stay the night in Beijing for missing our flight home to the US. I got a TERRIBLE case of food poisoning in Beijing and was sick on all flights home (which, too, all had delays or engine troubles where we had to move to a new plane!!). LOL…when I got home, I had to go to the emergency room for IV fluids as a result of my severe dehydration! But still, I refused to let that ruin my beautiful memory of our wedding in China.
So there’s my story of our wedding in China. Thank you all for reading and posting. I will have a Final Part 4, but that will be just extra photos of the photo shoots we did in China. The pictures are just too awesome and fun to keep private. If any of you ever visit China, do yourselves a favor and get a photo session done – chances are the place you go to will have one and you’ll thank me. They have the BEST shoot settings and costumes I’ve ever seen. I wish I could have picked 6 more sessions!!!
Love and blessings!!