Post # 1
I haven’t looked too much into this so I have no idea if it’s allowed or not…I can’t see why not but at the same time who knows anymore. I want my one and only sister to be my Maid Of Honor, because for one she’s my sister and two this will be the only way to stop all of the drama happening between my friends (ugh! that’s another story…) Anyways the only thing is she’ll be 14 by the time my wedding rolls around so I don’t know if she can be if there’s an age limit? Also, is it just me or does it sound plain weird to have a MOH who is only 14? I know, my wedding my rules so I shouldn’t care yadda yadda yadda but I guess I’m just hoping that I’m not going crazy.
Post # 3
I don’t think thats strange at all. If you want it I think its wonderful.
Post # 4
Just do what you want to do, I’m sure your little sis would be honored!
Post # 5
Who wouldn’t “allow” it? I am not having a titled Maid/Matron of Honor, but my Future Sister-In-Law will be 17 and she will be standing next to me and handling my bouquet and “froofing” my dress, as she says. I don’t know if I’d want her to plan a shower or bachelorette party or anything (even just a spa day or something she could participate in, obviously, not going out/bar) and would let my other girls handle that — only because she doesn’t have the funds or life experience to know what to is expected and I wouldn’t want to unnecessarily stress her out like that. I wouldn’t think it’s weird to have a 14 year old with the title anyway. Your bridal party should be the people who are most important to you! We have a 17 year old and it is looking like we may have a 60 year old on his side, too!
Post # 6
My 14yo sister is my Maid of Honor! And our 47yo sister is my other MOH! Ha! We’re all VERY spread out in ages… but I wouldn’t have considered anyone else to play the rolls of Maid/Matron of Honor but them! My only concern for you is that she really won’t be able to do the typical Maid/Matron of Honor duties… planning Showers, Bach Parties and the like (I’m not having any of those, so that wasn’t an issue for me)… so if you’re mom doesn’t mind standing in as the main support for her to lean on in her duties.. I think it’s a great idea! My folks have been great helping my little sis do my dirty work (like collect 120 river stones for seating cards!). =D
Post # 7
@Firefighter_Bride: I certaintly don’t think there is some rule dictating how old your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to be. But keep in mind, a 14 year old is going to be limited on what she can organize. And likely wouldn’t be able to join in on the bachelorette party.
Post # 8
I was my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor when I was 11 or 12. I had a lot of fun, but I definitely wasn’t able/aware of my duties since I was just a kid. I think it’s fine, too, if that’s what you want!
Post # 9
I love the idea (I bet she is really excited). You might want to double check how old witnesses need to be if she is going to sign the register for you. Sometimes they need to be of legal age (18/19/whatever).
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! I feel so much better! 😀 I’ve already talked to my sister about the whole party planning and stuff since it obviously wouldn’t work out too well dragging a 14 year old into the bar LOL and she has no problem handing that job off. Instead I’ve made her incharged of decorating the driveway and she’ll help me with everything else! 🙂
Post # 11
When my sister got married, I was Maid/Matron of Honor and was 15 years old.
Post # 12
I was in a wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor was underage (16, I think). It was lovely, she was super excited and totally all about helping in every way possible. As BMs we took on a little more planning. One thing worth mentioning, before the bar parts of the bachelorette evening, we did an afternoon visit to a spa to get our nails done. And then we had what we called “tea,” but was really just an excuse to eat an afternoon dessert. The underage Maid/Matron of Honor was able to participate in those two activities.
Post # 13
It’s fine for anyone of any age to be a maid of honor. Be aware that she is not old enough to legally sign the marriage certificate as your witness so you will have to someone else do that for it to be legally binding.
Have something fun that all of your bridesmaids can do that doesn’t limit her due to her age such as going out to lunch or having your nails done.
Post # 14
Musingsfromhere basically said what I was going to. The only thing I could see that would be an issue is that normally (from where I am from anyway) the Maid/Matron of Honor is the one that acts as the witness to the marriage. But I can’t see why you can’t have her as the Maid/Matron of Honor and just have someone else from the wedding party be the witness.
My Fiance doesn’t have any family to speak and right now the plan is that our two children (girl currently 2.5 yrs and boy about to be born) will be his Best Girl and Best Boy. Obviously they can’t witness the wedding, so we are thinking of asking my Dad to be the witness for him. My Witness will be my one Bridesmaid who I have knoen since Kindy.
And as for a Bachelor Party. my Fiance has no plans on having one anyway. Hes done so much partying in his life and been a playboy for long enough, he doesn’t feel the need to have one last fling.