14yearslater : Why are you still with him?!
I understand needing time to gather the strength to leave after passed deadlines, but it sounds like you’re still deluding yourself, holding out hope that he will somehow suddenly, magically want to marry you.
He has shown you for 14 years he will not marry you. Ever. And for some reason you thought after 14 years, an ultimatum, and him REFUSING to propose in spite of the threat of losing you, that maybe he’d propose 5 months later on your birthday? Come on, bee. This is just sad.
If he was ever going to propose, he would have either done it a decade ago or when you threatened the relationship with the ultimatum.
You could have been rid of this loser long ago. Or you could have spent the last 5 months mentally, financially and emotionally preparing to leave- but you’re not. You’re still sitting here, in the same position you were years ago.
I really hate to be harsh, but you’ve been with this piece of shit for 14 years and now you can tack on almost another HALF A YEAR more of pure bullshit
You are pissing away your time with this jackass
I’m so sorry, bee, but it gets to a point where you are doing this to yourself and you either need to take some responsibility for yourself and your children and move on or you accept that this is it and get over it. There is no other choice
Make a decision. Do something already- it has been almost 14 and a half years and this bullshit will end when you decide it ends.
It’s okay to grieve. It will take time. But you need to do something about this. It has been way too long
Please recognize that you deserve better, but until you work towards finding that something better, this misery is all you will know. I hope you can find some peace with this. Good luck