Post # 1
I’m a pretty low-key bride, but this one’s got me. Here’s the deal: A group of 15 or so college friends decided to rent a house together. They finally added me to their email planning list…. and what do I find? Almost all of them are planning on bringing a +1! One even added another sort-of friend (who wasn’t invited) to the list! Aaaah! This is my group of single friends – not one of whom have a +1 according to my list. And the invites aren’t even out yet!!!
(Sorry for all those exclamation points in 1 paragraph. There’s a lot of emotion in there.)
I wrote the group an email, trying to be light-hearted, emphasizing my status as a poor bride-to-be. I think it worked for the most part, but 3 people have written back begging – crazy. I know I’m not an expert on wedding etiquette, but really? CRAP!
Lesson learned: clarify from the beginning to avoid problems. My RSVPs on the invites will definitely specify the number invited
Post # 3
First off – how rude of them to just invite extra people. But at least most of them came to their senses when told otherwise. That’s better than most Bees’ +1 horror stories.
Second – they were planning on putting almost 30 people together in the rental house?? Are they crazy??
Post # 4
yikes!!! speak to someone quick!! have them spread the word!
on a happier note: we gave about 15 people a plus one and none of them brought dates! It was lucky and great!
Post # 5
You did the right thing and stick to your initial thoughts. Just tell them you wish you could, but it wouldn’t be fair to not only your other friends, but family members as well who arent getting a +1
Boy, it really does amaze me what people assume. Before my FH were engaged we were always sure to clarify if I was invited to his families weddings (sometimes I was and sometimes I wasnt) and I was never insulted if I wasnt. The line has to be somewhere.
Post # 6
They were very rude to assume they could bring people. Stick to your guns.
Post # 7
Oh, the uninitiated. I’m guessing none of these folks have planned a wedding before?
Post # 8
Obviously if these people are all getting a house together, they are all friends and therefore would know plenty of other people at the wedding and would be able to have a good time.
Hold your ground! 🙂