Post # 1
We are getting married in the Indianapolis area next March. The reason being, my fiancee’s father needs a kidney transplant and is on the list to get one. He must stay within three hours of the area should a kidney become available. He is also on dialysis. His mother is inviting around 70 people. We have already booked and put a deposit down on the venue for 75 people minimum, 150 people max. I am from here, the Charlotte area, and my family lives here. So far, I’m planning on inviting 30 people. I have a huge family but I’m not all that close to all of them. Some of them I only see at holiday gatherings, while others I see more frequently. I can not invite everyone, nor do I think everyone can come. We are paying for the wedding party’s travel arragements and accommodations. Should I invite all my aunts and uncles and exclude cousins? How did those of you who planned smaller weddings figure out who to invite?
Post # 3
We ended up inviting 150 people. To figure out my side, I did absolute MUST invites first (immediate family and VERY close friends), then I made a list of aunts/uncles/cousins, and another of other close friends. Total, I had about 80 people on all lists combined. I am not VEY close to some of my cousins and aunts/uncles, but I do see them on holidays and would hate to leave them out. I also think that even if you don’t care if they are there or not, inviting some aunts/cousins etc. and not others may stir up hurt feelings. If you can’t invite all, invite none, IMO (exception being to godparents who are also aunts/uncles, or if they are in place of your parents etc.)
Post # 4
My guest list is 150 and I started with the most important people first. Then I worked my way out. I know for sure a lot of the oot people can’t come (and some have confirmed that) so I then invited a few other people who I would love to be there… the list is over 200 but it still includes those people who can’t come so hoping at the end of the day, I’ll get my 150.
Fi wants me to save him 10 extra spots (most of the guest list is HIS family but I am also pretty close to them). All my family lives oot and a lot of them won’t be able to make it so it leaves some room.