Post # 1
Haven’t posted in awhile but I am in need of some serious help! My DS is having what seems to be some major attachement issues. I stay home with him but I do have him ennrolled in some Mom and Tot classes though I am there with him.
We also recently moved which I know can contribute but he was like this before we moved. I can’t get anything done, going to the bathroom is a chore, throwing something out in the trash becomes a meltdown for him because I go out to the garage. By the end of the day my nerves are shot and I get upset. If I don’t give into his need to be picked up and brought with me everywhere he has a total meltdown that can go on forever. The minute he sees me get up and start to walk away he starts to cry and whine, runs over to me and grasps my leg and starts to get hysterical if I don’t pick him up and take him with me.
I don’t know what to do to try to help him with this, I’ve tried ignoring him, it makes him worse. I’ve tried just taking him everywhere I go with me in the house, but it’s tiring and hard to cook and clean up holding a toddler ( I’m also 5 months preggo) I’ve tried explaining to him I will be right back or talk to him from the next room and he is just too hysterical ,
Post # 3
I think it’s the age. My neice did this, but grew out of it.
Post # 4
what about leaving him in a day care for a few hours alone? He can play with other kids and learn from them to be more independent of you. Also would give you a few hours to relax a bit.
My nephew was very close to his mother, in some ways as you described and after the day care he is much more independent (also he grew a bit).
Post # 5
Has he always been like this or did he get like this once you got pregnant? I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing or what but I’m hispanic and we all think that kids get more clingy once a mom gets pregnant. I’m 17wks with baby #2 and have a 25mo old Dirty Delete. She’s been pretty independent but she has her days where she is so clingy and it drives me nuts. She’s tons worse with Darling Husband though. Hopefully things turn around for you!
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice!
Hmm he was always clingy to me before being preggo, but he wasn’t as bad. I think some of this is def the move because he wasn’t as bad before we moved. I realized that I need to not sweat the small stuff and if things don’t get done they don’t get done. I am going to put him in a 4 hour class once a week without me and I think that should help.
Post # 7
My 13 month old is like that too. I think it’s partially the age, partially being an only child so far, and partially that I stay home with her. I had a big project recently that demanded daytime hours I usually spend with her, and so I hired a nanny to come a few days a week. At first she really freaked out and resisted being with anyone but me, but she’s slowly gotten used to it and is now happy to see her sitter. I think the advice about getting your LO around other people and sometimes not with you, although hard, is good.