Post # 1
It seems like in a lot of these “how long will you wait” threads a lot of younger brides/wives say they will wait a long time if they are marrying young. I always feel in the minority (on WB) because Darling Husband and I plan on being young (early/mid 20s) parents. I also know and know of a lot of people who say they’ll wait and then change their minds soon after their wedding.
Are there people out there like me that said they wouldn’t wait for a long time, didn’t care about being in the minority/criticism, and stuck/ are sticking with it?
Are there people out there who are strictly set on waiting, despite pressure from others to have a baby?
Please vote in my completely unscientific survey. =)
Post # 3
We got married at 24 and 23, and our daughter was born when we were 25 and 24. 🙂 We said we were going to wait, but my husband has had baby rabies for years, and it didn’t take a lot of convincing for me to change my mind. To be honest, we thought we’d want more time to be newlyweds, but after the wedding, we were like, “Why are we waiting?” It just made sense to go ahead and start a family.
Post # 4
I said I’d wait and then got knocked up on accident. lol, You should probably add that option.
Post # 5
I’m 24, three months married, and 100% set on waiting several years before TTC. My husband and I are so excited to finally have some “us” time, and we’re very happy investing our time and energy into our marriage for now. At this point, we’re not physically, emotionally, or financially prepared to be parents.
I don’t have even a little bit of baby fever yet, so I’m very much expecting my resolve to hold for the next five or so years.
Post # 6
@Mrs.Spring We are very similar! We also thought “why are we waiting?” and we talked about it and decided that some parts of our lives did need some work before ttc and others weren’t as important. We’ll be ttc in 2012 but if it were up to my husband we would start NOW!
ETA- Also, I realize that 24/25 can be a lot different on average than 18/19 so there’s that reason for you…I just chose 18-24 because that’s what a lot of people tend to choose for “young brides.”
Post # 7
I’m 22 and my husband is 26. We were planning on waiting a little while but still not a long timg (probably less than a year). The month we got married our honeymoon fell during the “magic” time of the month so we decided to not try, not prevent. I ended up getting pregnant. We were very excited and through that realized that we were definitely ready. When I had a MC we talked about maybe going back to the waiting plan but ultimately decided that we wanted to start trying again right away. We are financially stable, own our home and have stable jobs. We’re as ready as we’re going to get 🙂
Post # 8
@Running Elley: Those are FANTASTIC reasons for being ready now. Congratulations on your success in life so far, your marriage, and your choice to TTC!
Post # 9
We’ll be getting married at 22, and our plan is to have a baby by the time I’m 25. We’ll see if that’s too “short” of a time for just us, though. : )
Post # 10
I’m 23 and we’re planning on waiting for 6/7 years. We have a lot of student loan debt holding us back. Also, there is so much I want to do to the house and even with my life before kids. I’m definitely not ready yet!
Post # 11
I’m 25 but I’d like to reply anyway. 🙂
@zippylef: That’s exactly what I say!!! I want to have kids maybe a couple years after we get married I am just terrified of it! I am an only child and was never around babies. FI LOVES kids, though, and doesn’t think it’s as funny as I do..
Post # 12
@Gemstone:Thank you so much 🙂
Post # 13
Gemstone: We are sort of opposites but I love that you know what you want and are sticking to it! Hope you are enjoying your first few months of marriage!
Running_Elley: I agree! And I’m so sorry about your MC. Glad to know you’re trying again and hope you get your BFP soon!
Post # 14
Well, I’m not married yet so I suppose it could change but… I’ll be 21 when we get married and Fiance 23. I’ll still have a year or two of college to go (I skipped a year for financial reasons so I’m behind, haha) and I’d really rather not try to balance 30 hours a week of work, school, and pregnancy/baby. If it happens it happens I guess… but I’d like to be maybe 25 when we start trying and Fiance is good with that. We’re broke right now anyway. 😛
Post # 15
I wonder if the economy affected anyone’s decisions either way? It certainly did for us.
ETA- by which I mean our financial situation could have been a lot better a lot sooner without the crappy economy!
Post # 16
My hubby and I got married May 2010, I was 20 at the time. I’m 22 now and pregnant with out first. I initially wanted to wait about 5 years. I even made a list of things that had to happen before we had kids:
Me: Finish school (at least my AA anyway)
Stop working as a nanny
Him: Get a “real” job (he was working at Lowes and had a masters degree in teaching lol)
Get health insurance
So I thought all four of those things would take awhile, but then in January I got laid off from my nanny job (they just couldn’t afford a nanny anymore), I found out I’d graduate in Dec. with my AA, my husband got a GREAT job at a college and has great benefits with it. All in one month this happened.
So we talked about it for a few months, started TTC in March and got pregnancy in June.
Sometimes I wish I had waited a little longer (at least til we own a house), but obviously there is no changing that now lol 🙂