(Closed) 1+’s Are you giving signle guests 1+?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: 1+?
    Everyone gets one : (55 votes)
    47 %
    No 1+'s : (13 votes)
    11 %
    A small number of guests get one : (50 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We only gave a +1 to those who were married (obviously) and those who are engaged and/or dating someone for over 2 years. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I didn’t vote because your poll doesn’t have what we’re doing. Wedding party gets one, and anyone with a long-term partner/spouse/etc. gets one, assuming we’re not already inviting their SO.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We gave everyone a +1 and we only have a few people bringing a +1.  Almost everyone invited to our wedding has to travel, though, so it could’ve been different if we got married in our hometowns. 

    Post # 6
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’re giving +1s to married couples (obvi), engaged couples, couples that have been dating a significant amount of time (more than 2 or three months), or to people who won’t know anyone else at the wedding. We did have two people ask us if they could bring their girlfriend so that they can introduce her to their friends–umm hello this is not a meet and greet bbq, it’s a (freakin expensive) wedding. BUT we ended up with fewer ppl than we thought so we just gave in and let them bring their gfs.

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    For the ceremony, nobody got one. We only had 30 people there. For the reception, you had to be in a serious relationship/living together. We had 90 people.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We basically said no +1s unless living together, engaged, or married OR those 1-2 couples who arent’ living together (because of religious reasons, namely) but have been dating forever and we know the other person.

    But honestly, my single friends, knowing them, won’t really care.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We’re having a small wedding– 45 max but hopefully closer to 40. So no, singles are not getting +1s. However, all of our singles are friends so I doubt they care.

    Post # 10
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    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Anyone who has a fairly long-term SO gets a plus-one, as well as the few guests who are single and will not know anyone at the wedding apart from the bride and groom…I want them to have a guest so they won’t have to travel alone, stay in a hotel alone, or be lonely at the wedding.

    Post # 11
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    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We gave plus ones to anyone who is in a relationship (I defined that as not seeing anyone else, and have been dating for at least a couple of months. We also gave plus ones to anyone in the wedding party.  Also if they aren’t in a relationship, but don’t really know anyone else at the wedding we gave a plus one, so that they will have someone to talk to! And anyone traveling a long distance to come to the wedding gets a plus one.

     

    Post # 12
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    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    we gave everyone a +1.  no exceptions.  even for people we knew weren’t dating anyone.  It turned out well.  Not a single person brought “a date”.  I wouldn’t worry over it too much since people don’t treat your wedding like a political dinner or school dance.  They’re just happy to be there and celebrate with you. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Married, engaged, living together/long relationship are getting +1s.

    We’re are already getting drama about cousins (who are in high school and college) not getting +1s and our wedding is over a year away! Oh well.

    Weddings are expensive! And we just want the people we love and know around us, not the flavor of the week.

    We’re talking about some exceptions for friends that are coming from long distances and won’t know many people. We’ve got time to figure it out but yikes is it tough.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    we are giving a +1 to pretty much every single person, minus a 17 year old we are being forced to invite, FI’s 12 year old brother, and a few adult relatives of mine that never married and haven’t dated in my entire lifetime. it actually didn’t come out to be a ton–i think it added maybe 15 people to our guest list and i don’t expect many of them to bring a date as most of the singles are all from the same group of friends and they’re the types that are just as happy to hang out with each other. in the end i think the +1’s will add about 5 actual people to our total guest count, which considering we are aiming for 150 or under, isn’t bad at all and seems worth it to make our friends happy.

    Post # 15
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    330 posts
    Helper bee

    I plan on giving +1’s to pretty much everyone because it will only be close family and friends.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We are inviting spouses/fiance’s.  Any single friends will not get a +1.  Most of our friends are either married/engaged or perpetually single….and they all know each other well enough that they won’t be alone.  We are capped at 80 guests, so that is why we are limiting.

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