Post # 1
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Newbee
OK so we’re having a biggish wedding – but that’s because we have a huge family, not because we’re inviting EVERYONE we know, you know what I mean?
So what’s the deal with + 1’s??? I mean my Sister has only been going out with her Boyfriend or Best Friend for a month or so, but she’s my sister so I can’t exactly say “you can come, but you can’t bring him” (they are “serious” just new 😛 ) but what about other guests?? At what point is a couple a couple if you catch my drift?
Please help, apart from my sister I’d rather not have random guys and girls turning up to my wedding!!
thanks!!
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
I think that everyone who is married or engaged should be invited with their SOs. As for the other guests, I think it depends on a case by case basis. If someone has been with their SO for years and just not married, they should be invited together. Personally, I think everyone should have a guest but I understand that it isn’t possible sometimes!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: i agree, we invited married/engaged/long term serious plus one’s but everyone else who was single or short term dating, we kept with no plus 1’s… our friends didnt really mind because they were grouped with friends (work, church, etc.) and they didn’t want an obligatory date they’d have to “babysit”
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
What we’re doing: everyone in the wedding party got a plus one (if they were already in a relationship we invited their SO), married, engaged, living together, AND if you didn’t know anyone. Other than that, you’re coming as a single!
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I’m in that same biggish wedding category as you – lots of family. There are only a few guests who don’t have serious SOs, and a lot of them are not my family (which makes up like 75% of the guestlist!) so I figure everyone gets a +1. Partly to be nice, partly to not feel obliged to entertain singles who won’t know many people.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Well we had plus 3 and fours and even one plus five sent in to ours so I would be really careful. I figured people would understand that they should only invite serious boyfriends/fiance whatever, but no… People started adding on their teenage children who then in turn invited their gf’s and now we have twice the people we thought we would which equals twice the money! Don’t people understand that the people on the envelope are the people invited?
Guess not…
Post # 8
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Newbee
@jamiemichelle: Oh dear!! that’s my worst nightmare!! Hopefully that won’t happen! Although what do you do if it does??
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