Post # 1
So after almost 8 years together, last month my husband and I got married!! Which I am still over the moon about. About a week after we got married, he came home one day though and told me he wanted to TTC. Which kind of took me off guard, because I didn’t think he was near wanting to yet. We talked about it seriously for a few days, and came to the conclusion that it was a go. Even though my cycle was right at the point where it was starting over again, I went out immediately and bought prenatal vitamins, cut out all caffiene, started eating super healthy, etc. I know a few weeks won’t make a huge difference but still lol. Now today (5/5/16) was CD10, and I am supposed to O on CD13 or CD14 according to the apps I have been using. One that I have used for years for my period, says I should on CD13. I was expirencing alot of mild cramps on CD9, so to be sure we BDed. Just wondering what other days we should, or if we should just BD everyday until like CD15? We didn’t get any tests or anything to test my days, seeing how I was reading a lot of things about them being unnecessary. But was wondering if you all had any other tips or advice for us TTC beginners!
Post # 2
mrsc416: Hi. Welcome to the TTC club!! This is my second cycle TTC but my first cycle charting/temping. However, I have also been following the SMEP (otherwise known as the ‘Sperm Meets Egg Plan’) as far as it has been practical this cycle. I have only just come off BCP and not sure if/when I ovulate (hence the charting) so I thought SMEP might be my best bet for now. Further information is available at http://spermmeetseggplan.com/smep-step-by-step/ . One thing worth noting is that period tracking apps tend to use the standard rule that ovulation occurs at CD14 which isn’t the case for every woman – I seem to be ovulating at around CD28!!. Ovulation could also be delayed in any given cycle for a number of reasons i.e stress, travel, illness etc even when previous cycles have been ‘average’. I would therefore use the app with a degree of caution but implement SMEP or simply BD every 2-3 days over the entire length of your cycle to ensure that your fertile window isn’t inadvertently missed.
Post # 3
In answer to your question though, average women are fertile for five days before and including the day of ovulation so if you are sure that you ovulate CD13 then it wouldn’t do any harm BDing every day from a few days before expected ovulation until a few days following (aslong as Darling Husband has a healthy sperm count) and then carry on with BDing every 2-3 days until the end of the cycle, just in case!
Post # 4
Pretty sure if you have regular sex, either every other day or every 2-3 days, you will probably be guaranteed to have at least some sperm there when you need it. Sperm can live 5 days (I’ve even seen 7) so you have about a 5 day window you can get pregnant. So having sex every 2-3 days should guarantee you get some sperm where it needs to go. I think the egg itself (once released) only lives 12-24 hours so basically you want the sperm there when it is released. So women are actually only fertile themselves for 24hours but combine that with sperm living 5 days that is your 5 day window to have sex. To live 5 days, sperm need the fertile quality cervical fluid to survive in so that is why you will see fertile cervical fluid appear before you ovulate- it helps the sperm.