Post # 1
So due to recent (and truly year long) events and my Maid/Matron of Honor being completely uninterested in the wedding and me for that matter, I’m posting on here in hopes of getting a little support regarding the dress issue. Here goes:
Bought my dress and love it, but the gal who sold it to me didn’t take my measurements (and I didn’t think to make her. How dumb am I!!), so the dress that came in is a size too small in the bust, the hips are a little tight too and the dress puckers funny. Not too noticable to everyone else, but in person I could see it. I was going to get a corset put into the dress anyway to give me more of the hour glass shape, and at least this way the bust will fit again.
However, I’m SOOOOO nervous about my 1st dress fitting. What if it doesn’t look good? What if I keep gaining weight and look like a big huge fat whale on the wedding day??? “Whoa, thar she blows!! Did she eat the bride??” We’ve paid so much for photography and I told myself I wouldn’t be a fat bride because I knew how much I would hate the photos if I was. And gues what… I’m still fat. I gained back the 15 pounds I lost (due to stress from SO’s year long deployment to Iraq… I’m a stress eater), and I can’t stop beating myself up for it! I weighed myself yesterday and I weigh more now then ever before in my entire life. My SO is very supportive and wants to drop a few pounds too before the wedding, but I know I’m not going to be the size 12 I had dreamed about for the wedding and it makes me feel so pissed at myself for letting this happen!!
Here’s me in a dress with a corset, and this is how I want my shape to be. The dress is actually 2 sizes too small. But it’s the same fabric, style, designer, and color that my dress is:
Here is me in my dress. The sales gal is behind me fiddeling with the train but my waist doesn’t look as thin as in the first dress. And while some people don’t like busty women in a sweatheart neckline I REALLY love the neckline of the above dress and kindof wish my dress had that:
Do you think that after alterations I will have the same shape as the 1st dress?? What if I wore a fit and flare slip to poof out the bottom more… would that make my waist look smaller by playing with proportions???
Thanks bee’s! Wish me luck!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
So this dress doesn’t have a corset waist? That will definitely impact on its shape – there’s only so much zipper dresses can do to pull you in. (I have that same problem, I wish I could make mine a corset back!)
Definitely worth taking along a good pair of slimming underwear/garments to see how that impacts on the pulling. Sometimes having those on will smooth away any gathers or wrinkles! Take lots of pictures as they’re playing around with alterations, so we can see! 🙂
Post # 5
Was thinking about going and buying the spank body shaper. But it’s around $80 to $100 I believe and I’m worried it will add extra inches due to the thicker fabric. I have regualr spank and I am actually wearing them in the second photo. Didn’t help much.
Post # 6
I think you are going to look really lovely on your day! You have a nice hourglass shape! I think that it’s important to remember that dress fittings may not represent what the FINAL product is going to look like. Your dress will get altered to fit you perfectly. That being said, if you would like the extra support, I dont’ think getting the spanks will add extra inches, if anything, it may make you feel more ‘supported’. Also, you mentioned that you were going to get a corset put in. I think that alone will help a lot and will help emphasize your small waist!
Post # 7
1st – if you are that unhappy with your weight, do something about it. Honestly, you don’t look that far off from a size 12 and you have 3 months. I am a stress eater too and it stressed me that my dress was too small. However, I thought about the extra $150 it was going to cost me to have it let out every time I went to eat something. Luckily I am more of a tightwad than a stress eater so I was able to lose the weight:)
2nd – buy yourself a variety of undergarments (make sure they are returnable) to see what works best for you. I do think a crinoline would be helpful too.
3rd – maybe you can have the front of yours converted to a sweetheart neckline? It won’t be as deep as the other dress. Personally I like it the way it is.
Post # 8
I think your dress looks beautiful on you! I think a fit and flare slip will look great under your dress and will make your waist look even smaller.
If you’re not happy with how you look, you still have time. 10 pounds makes a huge difference, and if you cut certain things out (don’t buy junk food) you’ll be fine. I am a huge stress eater and I love snacking. If there’s nothing to snack on then I just can’t eat it.
Either way, I think you’ll make a gorgeous bride and I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 9
Georgia Bee close to a size 12? Hardly. I’m an 18/20. But thank you. I am trying to do something about my weight and it is a struggle. If I lose great, if not I want my dress to fit and to be prepared for that. I am going to buy a couple different undergarments like you suggested and keep the tags on. I’ll take them with me to the appointment and just take back the ones that don’t work.
All you bees: thanks for the words of support!
Post # 10
I think the dress looks amazing on you! Once the corset is in, you will get the shape you want. They can work miracles in alterations, they will make it work for you. Have faith!
Post # 11
I don’t think your waist looks bigger in the second dress you posted! I noticed this on my own dress pics too, but I think the background is deceptive. That salesgirl’s pale arms are right behind your waist, and they kind of blend with the beautiful ivory of your dress, making it look like her arms are part of you — but they’re not!
Also, when I look at those pictures, “fat bride” is NO WHERE near what I’m thinking. You look beautiful – I envy your hourglass shape!
Post # 12
Stop putting yourself down about your weight. Your Fiance loves you the way you are and he will think you are beautiful on your wedding day no matter what.
I think the crinoline idea is a great one. Having the hips taken out as much as possible will help with the puckering you are worried about, and if they can’t take it out at all, then definitely get a mid thigh shaper to wear underneath the dress to slip that part of your body out.
Putting the corset in the back will definitely pull you in at the waist, but the first picture dress is fitted lower down your hips than the dress you bought, so you won’t be able to get the exact same effect with your dress as the first one.
No matter what, you’ll look great.
Post # 13
Your waist looks skinny in the 2nd picture to me. I think you need to take another picture against a more contrasting background, and you’ll like it better. I also think a corset and a crinoline will do wonders for how you feel in it!
Post # 14
I think you look slightly smaller in the second picture. I’m not sure why that is since you said you’re heavier in that picture. It might be because of the neckline or because the skirt isn’t as poofy. Your dress looks really great on you as is.
But if you feel insecure about yourself then try to do something about it. I know it’s not easy and it’s hard to find time after work or school to workout. When I try to find time to workout I’ll ask myself if what i’m doing at the moment is more important than working out. For example, if I have time to unwind by surfing the internet or watching TV then that means I have the time to workout so I turn off what I’m doing and start moving. If you are an emotional eater maybe you can try to find foods that are lower in calories. Like instead of junk food eat some Jello or fruit. You still have time to lose weight. You probably already know all this. I’m just trying to offer some support.
And if you don’t lose weight, it doesn’t matter. Your Fiance will still think you are beautiful and that is what counts.
Post # 15
I think that both dresses look great on you. Especially the second one.
I totally understand wanting to quit the stress eating, that’s not a good habit, but it’s a hard one to break. Have you tried redirecting yourself when you’re stressed? Find a buddy who can talk you into choosing a better snack or better activity when you’re stressing. My Fiance actually helps me in that way; he’ll say if you’re going to eat something, make it an apple.
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn
So, have you considered buying a corset to wear *under* the dress? I mean, the corset effect is really what you’re after here. And they make corset underthings that will do the same thing the back of the first dress did. Just have a good friend who isn’t afraid to tug help you get into it. And voila! Problem solved.
Edited to point out that I don’t think you need to get any facy sucking in underthings. You look great in both pictures. For reals. The above suggestion is just an idea to help you achieve your vision.