(Closed) 1st meeting with priest, what to ask?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Is it the meeting where he decides if he will give the mass?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

When we went to meet with our Priest, he gave us an information sheet with basically all of the info we needed, including numbers and names to call for an organist/soloist if we want to use theirs. Your Priest might have something like this, but if not, things to consider are the music (do they provide someone to play the organ/sing?), rehearsal, whether or not you will do a full mass or not, the aisle runner (usually not provided), altar servers, eucharistic ministers. I probably forgot things, but I hope this helps!

Also, be prepared for him to ask you lots of questions. My fiance and I did not realize how many questions we would be asked before we scheduled our date.

Good luck! 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He asked us things like how we met, what we do for a living, how long we had been together, if we live together, if we had ever entered into the process of marriage in the Catholic church, etc etc. Also things like “what’s one thing you do that you don’t really like to do but you do it anyways because your partner likes to do it?” I honestly didn’t know what to say mainly because we love to do everything together so I said I cook spicy food bc Fiance loves it! Ha! Then the priest was like no no thats not what I asked. He said usually girls say sports and men say shopping (but I love sports and Fiance does not mind shopping with me 🙂

Anyways, we were very caught off guard by all these questions. We had to go under oath to make sure everything we said was the truth! I do not know if every Priest is the same in what they do, but just in case, I hope this helps you! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We just had our first meeting with a priest this past weekend. He basically gave us a packet of information regarding the church, fees, flowers/videography/photography rules in the church and documents we’ll need to have in order. He gave us some information about pre-cana, an outline of the cermony, a packet on “marriage vs the wedding” and asked us general questions about whether or not we’d want him to officiate or if we’re just using the church.

Then he talked  to each one of us individually and asked us for our address (we live together so this scared me a little but he didn’t even mention it), if we had ever been married before, if we were practicing Christians or Catholics (I’m Catholic, Fiance is Christian), if we planned on having a family and what religion we’d be raising our children, and if we were getting married of our own free will. He also asked us if we were related!…which totally threw me of guard but I guess it’s a required question for the  church to ask (not sure if this is JUST a Catholic church thing or a Christian thing in general).

ETA: Other than those couple of questions he asked us seperately, we didn’t have a ton of questions like some PPs. There were some pleasantries exchanged since he’s not our regular priest (like what do you do for a living, etc), but nothing out of the ordinary. The whole meeting lasted about 40min.

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