(Closed) 1st year issues

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
2278 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrandNewBride:  I agree.

Being on the same page with money, and even more so trust, is very important.

Post # 18
8440 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@roleswitch:  My husband pays for everything (I don’t work), however we have a very “old fashioned” relationship.  Since he provides for us, I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.  Honestly, it sounds like your wife is taking advantage of your generosity.  Like other PPs said, maybe couples counseling will help your relationship, however I would still protect your assests in case this results in divorce.

Post # 19
834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@roleswitch:  Maybe this doesn’t answer your exact question and I’m definitely not defending your wife. BUT one of the things that helped me the most in my marriage is to not think of anything as 50-50. I always just plan on going 100% and anything Darling Husband does is a bonus. Not to say he doesn’t do anything. He is so good about helping out around the house and he takes SUCH good care of me! But I’ve learned that if I expect nothing, there’s no way for me to have unmet expectations. It makes it easy to be so thankful and appreciative of everything he does. Sounds like you’re already pretty well on your way to this point, and again, I’m not saying that your wife doesn’t need to step it up, but just thought I’d share what has really helped me. 

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