- 5 years ago
I’m new here and I’d also like to hear your opinion.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years now, living together for more than a year. He’s 30, I turn 27 next month. To be with him, I move to another city. Next month though we’re going to move to another city together.
He asked me to buy a house with him and I agreed. We haven’t bought one yet because I’d prefer to be engaged at least before that happens, but he told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and is very sure about us. Obviously I also know his family and I’m pretty close to them.
Well, I have been waiting for a ring for a couple of months now. Since he asked me to move to another city with him ad since he started telling me more and more that he wants to be with me forever and asked me to buy a house with him, I felt like maybe the proposal is coming soon. We also talked about kids already, he initiated the conversation. Basically we’ve talked about marriage only once, three months ago. He said that he doesn’t really see the point in getting married nowadays, which was like a punch in the face to me. I told him that marriage is the ultimate commitment, he agreed. I told him I want to get married in the future and he said ‘If you want to get married we can do that, no problem’. I asked him if he could tell me when that would happen more or less. He said he doesn’t know. The conversation ended at that point because I didn’t wanna keep asking, and I was thinking IF he decides to propose to me, I want to make him feel like it was his decision, not mine. I didn’t wanna pressure him. Since those three months ago we haven’t talked about marriage again. I also didn’t want to bring it up because we’re right now in the process of getting all of our furniture to the new city which is stressful enough. We’re done in about 1-2 weeks.
Well, I don’t know what to think. Since he doesn’t seem to be so much in the idea of getting married, I don’t even know if I should expect a proposal. He does know it is important to me. It’s my birthday in three weeks and I’m kinda hoping he will propose on my birthday. I’m trying to prepare myself that he probably won’t, so I won’t be too disappointed. By the way, we’re both financially stable, he’s been working in a great company for the past seven years, me for three years.
Is it too soon to expect a proposal after 2.5 years? I mean, we live together and he said he wants a future with me, so why wait? Also, we’re 27 and 30, not kids anymore. Or should I give him more time? If he doesn’t propose on my birthday, should I bring the marriage thing up again? I don’t wanna give him an ultimatum or so, but I feel like if I don’t have a proposal this year I will start resenting him.. this summer will be our third anniversary after all.
Thanks for your opinions!