- 5 years ago
I am hoping to get some advice on how to word or assemble my inviations. I’ve been stalking the boards on how others have worded their invitations for multiple ceremonies but I wasn’t able to find one where they have them on the same day. Originally, my FH and I were going to have a traditional Catholic ceremony with a reception to follow. However, his mother and sister converted to a different religion which prohibits them from attending another religion’s church and/or events, in this case our wedding nuptials.
After much thought, we decided to get officially married by the church and then have a second ceremony a couple of hours later so that his mom and sister would get to experience us exchanging our vows. We agreed that only family and bridal party would attend the Catholic ceremony and that the 2nd unofficial ceremony would be open to everyone else. This ceremony would be more casual and fun and not as formal as the Catholic one.
Well, my dilemma is that since technically the church is marrying us, our second ceremony is considered a renewal of vows from what I heard. We don’t need an officiant to marry us again for our second ceremony so I asked a good friend of mine to unofficially “officiate” our second ceremony. I’m just not sure how I should word it on the invitations.
The thing is that I somehow feel like we’re deceiving our guests attending the second ceremony since we are already married and are just doing an “unofficial” ceremony. So I was thinking of putting the church and unofficial ceremony just for our family and close friends in one invitation and then for everyone else putting the second ceremony only but calling it a “blessing ceremony” instead. Or doing one invitation only and wording it on our invitation as an exchange of vows for the second cermony and putting an insert of the church ceremony for family and friends.
I am going CRAZY!!! I hope I am making sense. It is pretty late at night and I just couldn’t go to sleep without posting this. Any help would be greatly appreciated!